Please help me get my 3.5 year old twins out of my bed.

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I am being kicked, slapped, pushed nightly. I work 3 jobs, DH has early starts. They are night owls and keep each other up until they flake.

They have their own room, which is cosy, a night lamp, we read books in their beds, after 5-6 books they get bored and after us explaining its time for them to settle down, sleep, 2/3 bottles of milk, even after dinner, and a small bowl of porridge/cereal to help fill their tummies (had 'im hungryyyy moans for a few nights) But Alas, they love their cuddles with us - which I secretly love, but I am suffering now with my back and mood with lack of decent sleep.

We have always got them to sleep with us - then carried to bed.

I really don't want to put a gate on their bedroom door - I cant have them at the gate crying for us.

I am waiting for two single sized beds to be delivered so I can at least dissapear off into one of those - I dont fit in their toddler beds...I have tried lol

Any other tips?

Hey, gosh reading this sounds like my situation, DS1 3yro, DS2 is 1yro. They both have Co-slept since birth and now I have one on each side kicking my body all over. I’m so tired and drained from it all.

I ordered a bunk bed, which has a 3rd pull out bed also. I’ve even set the cot up in the bedroom too, to prevent the 1yro climbing out of the bed and getting up to mischief.

I also didn’t want to put a gate at the door but due to the 3yro just opening the door and letting himself and brother out. I decided that the gate was my only option. I set up a gate at the door, only to discover that the 3yro can bloody jump it!! Although it does help to keep the 1yro contained.

Since the bunk beds have arrived I’ve actually had to share the bed with them because they just won’t stay in the room on their own. It’s a nightmare. The mattresses are made for toddlers not for adult bodies and I feel like I’m laying on a cheese slice! I’m beyond breaking point. Not to mention my DH works abroad and we see eachother for a week every 6 weeks! So I’m on my own trying endless amounts of sleep plans.

When DS1 was under the age of 1 we paid for a sleep consultant. It didn’t end up working because he is so defiant that we just threw £400 away on a plan that never worked!

I’m sorry I can’t be of much help, just having the support around you will help massively. I wish I had the support from my parents, maybe they would take over and help me with the nights. Seen as my partner isn’t here, but I don’t.
I say this because children act so different around different authority. My son is one child at nursery and a compete different child at home. I really hope you find some help and I would love to know if you find a technique that works.

Those hectic, tiresome nights have you feeling like your the only person awake on the planet. Believe me I know but, you are not alone!

I'm in the same boat. The cold nights don't help either as I don't know if they get cold in the night. My 2.5 year old wakes up in the middle of the night and trundles to our bed. My OH has said I should carry her back into her bed once she's asleep but I'm usually asleep myself. He wants his bed back and I'm useless.