Getting worse

[notsleepingbeauty]

I have a 3mo DD who's never been a great sleeper, but used to nap on me most nights and then sleep 11-2. 3-5. 5 onwards on me and I could deal with this.

Now it's so hard, in the evenings she'll nap lightly on me, but this will be interjected with crying, restlessness etc so I have to keep walking her around. I have a bath/bedtime routine that's usually from 6-7 where she'll fall asleep feeding but will wake up as soon as I put her down (even if I wait as long as an hour) . I've tried to put her down at different times 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11pm etc and it's the same. Occasionally we'll be lucky and she'll go down from 11-2, but this is rare. She then wakes up every hour through the night unless she sleeps on me.

I know all about the 4th trimester etc, but as she's now 12 weeks, I thought it might be getting better, not worse 😓

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Have you tried white noise? Is her cot raised? Maybe try a top of yours so she thinks you’re near. What would happen if you left her for a few minutes, would she settle?

Have you tried safe cosleeping?

She may also be suffering from reflux and that’s why she doesn’t like laying down. Does she get a lot of wind up? Try keeping her upright for 20 minutes after feeding then lay her down with the cot tilted if you can, some white noise and something that smells of you. Hopefully that will help

At that age, if the only place they'd sleep was on me, then that's how we slept. I'd prop myself up on a big pile of pillows, latch the baby on and we'd both sleep, swap sides when they wake and back to sleep.

Thanks everyone, we have tried co sleeping but she wants to physically sleep on top of me.
We have the next to me crib on a slope, white noise, tried a tshirt of mine before but doesn't seem to make a difference. If I leave her to it she'll just cry and cry (she goes from 0-100 really quickly). I do try to wind her as much as possible but she basically will only feed to sleep so it's really tricky :-/
She just never seems to fall into a deep sleep, she wakes up as soon as I move most of the time, but she does seem tired and grumpy :(

@Her0utdoors this is what I'm doing now once I give up. What age did that stop?

The problem is, that in the evening she seems so unhappy/overtired etc, but just won't settle (whether it's on me or alone), until about 11 where I think she just crashes. I think she'd be so much happier all comfy, snoozing in her crib but can't get her down as she won't settle for long enough

Ooh, now you've got me thinking OP! My first needed close contact for months, she slept on me for all or part of the night for her first 8 months - fear not, she slept most of every night in her own bed and room by 2, and is un walkable for a good 11 hours now at 6. She's always been quite wired and easily wound up, so I think that helped. Number 2, by 6 months it was over and he prefers to sleep away from anyone. The big one bf until starting school, the other is starting to slow down at nearly 3.
I did end up going to bed early with both of them for a while as neither would settle with the lights and TV on. Not the most fun, but over relatively quickly.