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Sleep training away from home - is it worth trying?

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Posey · 27/09/2004 20:48

Ds's sleep habits are getting worse at the moment. When he wakes in the night he really screams. We live in a flat so I am conscious of disturbing our neighbours and dd who has to go to school. Therefore its whatever shuts him up soonest which often means coming in with us. This wasn't a problem for a long time, but now he's started playing up in our bed and we're all seriously sleep deprived.

SO, what I was wondering is if anyone has an opinion on this idea. At half term, we're housesitting for my inlaws. Detached house (no neighbours to disturb), enough bedrooms for dd and ds to be a reasonable distance apart and no school.
Do you think its ridiculous to try sleep training not in your own home.
All opinions gratefully received.

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lulupop · 27/09/2004 21:44

Posey, I don't think it;s so ridiculous as to be not worth trying, but I would say (voice of painful experience here) that assuming your child is old enough to recognise its own bedroom, things won't necessarily go well once you return home EVEN IF it works while away. And that's a big if, as he might be even less easy to settle in unfamiliar environment.

Our DS (now nearly 3) was a horrendous sleeper, and we tried endless variations on the CC theme. I can go into detail of what worked if you like, but for now the main points I'd say are 1) Every time we did CC, had success, but then went to my parents for a night or 2 (and therefore were less willing to leave him crying), when we went home again it was back to square one, and 2) Do not start CC unless you are willing to carry it through until it has really "worked" (by which I mean you've seen a real improvement for at least 2 weeks consecutively). I was so used to reading and hearing that "You will see a real improvement by the end of the first week" that when we didn't I used to give up, exhausted. It wasn't until I saw a paediatrician (well, DS did) about something unrelated, that this guy said you've got to give it at least 3 months for a permanent improvement - he's taken 18 months to develop this habit as it is.

So I started the CC again with different expectations, and within 3 weeks things had got better, and that gace me the encouragement to carry on.

He now only wakes once a night

But DD (5 months) wakes 5 times a night

Posey · 28/09/2004 20:57

Thanks very much for that Lulupop. Really helpful.
I posted on another thread about ds being constipated which seemed to affect his sleep, but as always happens, he completely contradicted the pattern he'd formed once I'd posted it.
Last night, as well, was fab. Right through from 7pm to 4.30 (which believe me is great). Padded through to our room and snuggled down til the alarm went off at 7am.

I can cope with brief wakings in the night, but ds just seems to have these long sessions awake.
Will discuss it further with dh and get him to read your post. Thanks again!

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