Stopping cosleeping HELP!

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Hi All,

Hoping for some advice.
I am co-sleeping with my 4 month old DS.

When he was first born he slept in the Chico next-to-me, and although he would wake up for feeds he would always go back down. Around the two month mark he started wanting more comfort and we have fallen into a habit of co sleeping.

There has been the odd occasion where he'll sleep by himself but generally we co sleep most nights. Now I love cosleeping, and he has no issues going to sleep as long as he is next to me but I do want to start phasing this out and don't know how!!!!

Ideally I'd love to put him to bed before we go to bed but it's not happening. How do I get to the point where he is sleeping independently? As I said, he doesn't have any problems going to sleep when with me, but most of the time when I put him down his eyes are wide awake again and if left he will cry.

I'm not interested in controlled crying, but I know I need to take some steps to get him to sleep on his own again. We managed it before and I feel I've ruined it!!!!

I'm still BF, and tbh he will only go to sleep feeding. It's rare that he goes to sleep himself.

Do I need to just chill and go with the flow or are there things I can do? Any advice would be much appreciated. I just want a little bit of life back rather than having to go to bed early with him every night ...

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Hello! I did the same with my daughter then and now at 18 months I still feed her to sleep in her bed and sneak away. When she wakes in the night I sleep in her room - her bed is a double mattress on the floor so it's very comfy! I put her here when she was about 4-5 months old and just added the pillows etc when she got to about a year. Her room only has a few toys and no other furniture so it's quite safe if she gets up in the night. I chose to go with the flow but at least I have a bit of an evening back and can fall asleep in my own adult bed.... the idea is that she won't wake up as much as she gets older but that's not happening just yet 😉 we'll get there though. Perhaps you could do something similar?

We had a snuzpod but my DS would only sleep a bit of the night in it then sleep next to me with boob access until he was about 7 months old.

I know it’s so so hard but If co sleeping works for now and gets you both some sleep, go for it.

If you want to work on independent sleep, try and get him to sleep in the next to me for part of the night at least so he starts getting used to it.

I just posted the next bit in a different thread, hope it helps:

We had to co sleep until 7 months when he started pulling to stand and then we put him in his cot because it was unsafe for him to sleep in bed as he would start moving as soon as he woke up which resulted in zero sleep for everyone.

We moved him to his cot at 7 months and also introduced a comforter which I wore for a few days so it smelled like me. First night I fed him to sleep until he was out cold and he woke up immediately upon being placed on the mattress. I let him cry for a minute while I was in the room then picked him up and fed him again until he was fast asleep then put him back in the cot.

When he woke up, I’d wait for a minute or two to see if he fell back asleep then go in and feed him again. It was a hard few nights but eventually he got used to the cot and now only wakes once a night at 11months. He also frequently wakes for the day at 5am so I’m not the best example of a success story but we at least get some uninterrupted sleep without him in bed!

I used to hate hearing this but sometimes it just takes perseverance with the cot. In the end I think my DS is much happier sleeping on his own (even though he didn’t think he would be).

Good luck!