I need help with my daughter's sleep! She's 5 months and during the day she will only sleep in my chest after some crying/fussing. Regardless of when I try to get her to nap, this is the only way she falls asleep. I've walked around rocking her, or with her in the pram for hours and she stays awake. She also won't feed to sleep during the day.
At night we co sleep and she will not go in her cot. She will only feed to sleep while lying down (not being held) in the evenings/at night and this means I'm up in bed with her at 7pm.
How can I get her in the cot?? If I get her to sleep (either on me during the day or in the bed in the evenings) and then move her, she stays asleep until she's put down in the cot and is then instantly hysterical. There is no opportunity for shushing, soothing, patting, singing or whatever else because she is beyond calming. Even picking her up at this point means it takes about 15 mins to just get her to stop screaming, let alone the time it then takes to get her back to sleep. I considered PU/PD method but it would be literally 2 seconds of her in the cot followed by 15 mins of screaming just repeated and it seems cruel. If I put her in the cot awake she lasts a bit longer but still never actually sleeps. She'll just kick about, coo, laugh, roll over etc but once she starts getting upset (which she always does eventually, I assume due to tiredness), again she's instantly hysterical even with me right there trying to soothe her. If I put her in the cot and try to help her sleep with patting, shushing, etc she gets upset.
If I put her in the cot when it's not nap time, for example when I'm getting dressed, she's totally fine, it doesn't bother her.
But I need her to sleep in the cot at least sometimes! I'm so so miserable up in bed with her at 7pm every night. Plus with her only sleeping on me during the day I feel so trapped and isolated. If she misses a nap (because I've taken her out in the pram and she refuses to sleep) she's then horrendous the rest of the day, completely overtired and almost inconsolable. I don't think reflux is an issue as she sleeps fine on her back in bed and has no issue being in the pram, she doesn't get agitated she just doesn't sleep.
Any ideas?! Have I completely messed up letting her nap on me and sleep in the bed? I feel like I've failed her when she can't even sleep in the pram or the car seat (she hates the car seat and will scream for the entire journey regardless of length) even though these are things that other babies seem to all be able to sleep in!