My 4 week Dd is nocturnal

[glowingtwig]

So I thought that tiny babies didn't know the difference between day and night, but my 4 week old baby seems to be totally nocturnal. She naps well in the day - comes off from a good breast feed sleepy then snoozes in her downstairs crib for 2-3 hours, sound as you like.
Then, soon as it gets to about 9pm her eyes fly open, she starts to grizzle, feeds badly, head butting me and flinging herself about on my nipple, wont settle in the snuzpod and that's the story then until about 5am when she then seems to calm down and be ready for sleep again. I get my best sleeps with her between the hours of 6 and about 8 am.
What is this? I know she's very tiny and have read about the 4th trimester but she's been regular as clockwork with this for over a week now and I am so tired.
Any thoughts so gratefully received!

Most babies are. You have to become nocturnal too, until baby is ready to change.
It won't be forever another few weeks.
Get blackout curtains.

This is the case with my 4 week old son, too. Headbutting and all!
Apparently I was also a night owl as a baby.
No advice but I totally empathise. I'm so tired. If I'm lucky I might get 2 hours sleep a night, maybe another hour in the day. Apparently this doesn't last forever 🙈

That's normal for a newborn, which your four week old still is. DS1 was exactly the same, slept during the day, awake most if the night, then he & I would finally get some sleep in the morning.

You just have to go with it really. What might help is keeping things as dark as possible during night hours. I used to do all night feeds & changes in the dark, and kept as quiet as possible. They work it out eventually & start fitting in to better sleep patterns. In the meantime, try to sleep when she does.

Completely normally unfortunately. Hormones are highest overnight (biologically and evolutionarily beneficial), and boy do babies know it. It does get better, I promise, but for now you need to grin and bare it as best as possible and just sleep when you can.

The advice my midwife gave me on the first day home with ds was that you have to teach your baby the time to sleep & be awake. Don't tiptoe around during the day, carry on as normal, keep the room as bright as you can, go out in daylight whenever you can. At night do the opposite, keep everything as dark & quiet as you can, make any waking times as boring as you can, no talking or playing, if you have to feed baby, get them fed, changed & back in bed as quickly as you can, no talking, not too much light or eye contact.

Completely agree with what @Nat6999 said! It was around 4 weeks I was absolutely losing it with my little boy, he was doing exactly what your baby is doing now! We decided to tackle teaching him about night and day and attempt to get in some semblance of a routine (as much as you can with a newborn). From evening time make everything calm and quiet, relaxing bath, feed in dark room etc. Then during night, everything should be quiet, no noise, no talking, no eye contact. At 7am lights on bright, TV on, banging about, take the baby outside for a walk in the fresh air etc etc. I know that's not ideal if your only getting to sleep around then but we found within a week or so he started settling into a better sleeping pattern. His "bedtime" started to get earlier and earlier, from around 2am at 4 weeks, to around 11pm by 7 weeks, and now he goes to sleep at 7pm at 14 weeks. These little babies have to be taught absolutely everything, and that includes what day and night is, and how to sleep! It does get easier, I promise!!!

Thank you all. Another brutal night last night but at least I know it will get better and that she's not unusual! Just need to grit our teeth and keep going. I think she's a really windy/sicky baby too, which doesn't help.
Looking forward to a bit of a routine at some point but in the meantime will try and do the difference between day and night - thanks for the tips. Although I failed at getting up this morning as that was the opportunity for a bit more snooze.
Hoping for more that 3x 10 minute sleeps tonight - fingers crossed!!