11 months and inconsolable

[SisterA]

My baby is 11 months old and we have been having real troubles through the night for the last couple of months.

I am trying to be patient and totally appreciate there's a lot going on, baby has started nursery, I've gone back to work and there's a lot of physical and mental development going on so I've just been trying to be supportive. But LO is up sometimes every 30 minutes and the last few night max break has been about 1.5 hours - I'm obviously getting a lot less sleep than this because I'm getting up to settle and then I'm wired and find it hard to go back to sleep.

DH does attempt to settle and will happily get out of bed but there's been absolutely no settling lately and I just really feel like I'm failing my baby and I don't know how to help him. He doesn't want fed, doesn't want to be held, doesn't want to be put back in his bed. I did wonder if it was teething because the cries almost sounded painful but nurofen didn't make a difference so im loathe to try again if not needed. Day naps are totally unaffected. I'm fairly certain he's still half asleep but just totally inconsolable and it's really breaking my heart.

Has anyone got any tips? Part of me thinks we just need to ride out this rough patch but I'm also worried I'm just doing the wrong thing because he's so so unhappy and I'm just finding it really hard to help.

Have you tried bedsharing? It's not for everyone, but avoids the becoming fully awake part and I find DS then sleeps sounder the rest of the night so we all get more sleep.

Someone else will be along to suggest sleep training methods shortly I expect

I did always anticipate bedsharing but DH really wasn't keen. He's also a particularly noisy and light sleeper so he and the baby were just constantly waking each other up before I moved him to his own room.

Have considered giving DH a separate room but the spare room is getting some work done to the bathroom in it next week and it's gonna become a bit of a building site.

If things don't improve between then though we may end up bed sharing.

'Sleep training' doesn't really appeal to me but didn't know if anyone had any tips such as comforters/night lights or if they just rode it out and it was all fine in the end?

We just rode it out with DH in the spare room or me in DS room as he was a pain in the arse to put back in the cot so I put him onto the single bed in there with me.

DH is not an acceptable solution to night wakings unless i'm away from home and this is still the case at 2.4. (I nightweaned by myself, quite easily with gradual preparation).

Any room for a single bed in your baby's room- DS was in a floor bed rather than cot from 14 months as I couldn't put the great lump back down without waking him after BF. And he woke often

Thanks for this.

I do think there's a chance we may end up bed sharing - there's not room for a single bed in baby room but we can make more of an effort to set up a spare room.

Ultimately I feel capable of riding it out but don't want to cause any negative effects on him so hope to just make life as easy as possible for him.

It won't last forever! My current mantra.