Please help me get DD (7!)out of my bed

[Psychologika]

DD is 7 tomorrow. And gets into my bed every night. She won't sleep unless I lie with her til she's asleep. More often than not, she'll wake when I move, so I end up falling asleep in her bed.

I absolutely regret co-sleeping, and if I'd have known that we would still be doing this I would have CIO when she was small.

I'm so fed up and at my wits end. I know it's my fault but I don't know how to change it

i think you have 2 problems one her going to sleep and 1 her staying in her bed.

I would try and tackle 1st with sitting her down explaining now she is 7 she is a big girl, agree a bed time routine ie bath, reading time good night kiss and that then you are leaving her you will be in lounge and will check she is ok before you go to bed to reassure her you are not totally abandoning her.

2 I would start a reward chart and if she collects say 10 nights not getting in your bed she gets an pre agreed reward.

I would also think about a night light and clock she can read and tell her an acceptable time she can come in your bed in a morning for a cuddle.

Hi,
I have got the exact same problem with my 8 year old son. He will not sleep in his own bed and I have to sleep with him until he falls asleep then he comes in to our bed during night. My husband says just make him sleep in his own bed but it's so hard when he's crying and you feel guilty also my husband works away a lot so not always there. He says he's scared to sleep in his own bed I know he was looking at scary things on his iPad which we have now stopped but don't know what he seen. He seems to go looking for scary things to watch but then is scared to be on his own weird I know. I have tried all the talking and the rewards if he does it but With no success. I just don't know what to do as it causes so much trouble in our house around bed time 😭 joined mums net for any help or advice it would be greatly appreciated. Even thinking of taking him to see someone if there was anyone who deal with this as we just don't seem to be getting anywhere. X