Separation anxiety

[paz479]

Hi my LO is 8 months in a weeks time. She's recently started to get so clingy in the day and doesn't want anyone holding her but me (even family and close friends who she knows). She'll just whinge and whinge. I can barely put her down to shower. She's always had help going to sleep but the past few nights it's taking two hours in the night to settle her in her cot by herself. I don't even need to hold her I just say shh once and she goes back off because she knows I'm there but only for about 1 minute before she cries again. I was going to try controlled crying but if it is separation anxiety then will this not work?? She's also just cut two bottom teeth.

@paz479 Hi - teething is a really tough phase. My DD is now 15 months - she still has days when she is teething and just wants mummy cuddles and comfort. Naps can be hit and miss and bedtime takes ages!
It does come and go though - so hang in there!!

How long has your Bub been like this? They say the toughest time is 4 days before the teeth pop through and 3 days after... so about a week. But my DD sometimes took 2 weeks until things settled down.

Good luck! Hang in there - it will pass

I keep telling myself everything is just a phase.... swear I'll be saying this till she's 18!!! She's been quite bad for 3 night, one tooth cut a week ago and the other is just popping out from about two days ago! Thank you for replying!!!

I think they say 8 months is when they go through separation anxiety. It's a development stage and perfectly normal. It shows a strong attachment! No idea how long it lasts though, we're not there yet x

My nearly 7 year old has developed severe separation anxiety at bedtime. She has always been a great sleeper until approximately 4 months ago when she started presenting with signs of anxiety. It has now escalated to extreme, where she wants me to stay in her room until she falls asleep but will not allow herself to fall asleep as she does not want me to leave the room at all. This is resulting in 2-3 hour bedtime process and then it happens through the night again. I’ve tried sleep music, lavender, lights on in hall, nightlights in room, bedroom door left open, returning every 3 minutes, trying to get her to visualise lovely things, now sitting with her. She now wants to sleep with me in my bed. Can anyone help/advise? Am at desperation level now. It’s affecting everyone in the house.