How to get baby to sleep in bedside crib

[SarahJS123]

Hi, first time posting on here! My beautiful little one is 3 weeks old today and we are enjoying every moment. Unfortunately since day 1 we have not been able to get her to sleep in the bedside crib or a Moses basket. She just wakes up and screams. I feel like I've tried everything and ultimately she ends up co sleeping with us all night, every night. I don't sleep well at all when she's in the bed as I get nervous and I also have a bad back which gets quite sore when co sleeping (I stay in the position advised by midwife). If anyone has any advice I'd really appreciate it. I've tried white noise, swaddle, grow bag, projector lights or none, shirt smelling like me underthe sheet, hot water bottle, etc.

I don't know what else to do 😣

I remember these days, she will get there. I used to have to sleep on the edge of the bed with my arm over the top of my son (in his next2me), whilst going shhhh for ages.

Have you tried the tight velcro swaddles? We started using them at about 6 weeks and they made a massive difference. What about a dummy?

I will try one of those swaddles, thank you :) the dummy we tried once and she won't take it but we've also had major issues establishing breastfeeding so I think it's best to avoid until she's older

Do you have A cosleeping bedside crib? If so I've found gradually moving baby over with a hand on chest and then letting go, but still being close, works better than just putting them straight down in it.

Also swaddling

We don't have a co sleeping crib. I have contemplated buying one but it is quite an expense if it doesn't make any difference. The one I like is on sale until end of the month, so I figure I'll buy it before the sale ends if we see no improvement by then

Has she been checked for tongue tie etc? Just wondering if the feeding problems are connected to not settling well in the crib?x

She has been checked and no tongue tie. The issues are a combination of my anatomy and her wanting her food straight away 😂 she doesn't want to work to get the milk. We are successfully breastfeeding using shields and she's gaining weight (75th percentile)! I do have a breastfeeding support worker closely assisting us to make sure that we are okay feeding wise

We had the same thing, we have a co sleeper cot but even still my DS wouldn't go in it. I know it's probably not what you want to hear(I didn't at the time) but as she gets bigger it'll be easier to put her down. I thought it would never happen! But, now DS goes into his co sleeper for the first stretch then comes in with me. One thing I did find was feeding DS whilst he was laid in his cot, that way when he fell asleep I didn't have to move him, just move myself. I get myself into some impressive positions doing this though, so maybe with a bad back it wouldn't be possible. Hope you find a solution, it's tough at that age as they just want to be glued to you, it does get easier.

@SarahJS123 I found a Chicco crib on sale - i'll pop a link below as it was the cheapest I could find it!

Hope this helps!

www.oliversbabycare.co.uk/product/chicco-next2me-side-sleeping-crib-elegance-ccs/

I had a bedside co sleeper and no difference. Co sleeping worked til 4 months then I sidecarred (google) a normal cot

I had to sleep on my front with hand over him for ages

Thank you so much everyone! I think we will order a bedside crib and see how we go. If she takes a while I'll be okay and just soak up the baby snuggles while I can ❤️

@hwhi8 thank you we've ordered off that site! It's a really good price

Tried all the tips with two babies and a cosleeping crib and it didn’t work for months. Unfortunately they seem to know where they are. However, they didn’t seem to mind who they slept close to so we took it in turns to be uncomfortable.

Update - got the cosleeping crib. She slept a few hours in it so it was really successful compared to the other one we had. I was able to really reach in and soothe her which seemed to help keep her settled 👍

@SarahJS123 That's great, glad to hear it's working for you guys. I quite often lay with my arm over DS, he seems to find it a great comfort.

My DS is 15wks and still won’t really settle in his snuzpod. He’ll go down in it for 1-3 hours then that’s it!

Hi, first time mum here. I have got a 2 week old baby girl she’s an excellent sleeper already especially during the day. However, at night she wakes up every 2 hours or so. She sleeps amazing in her pram but next to me crib she doesn’t sleep as long for. Has anyone got any tips x

Hi @Klouise14

I'm afraid waking every two hours is pretty normal for a two week old. It should get better soon. My DD was going a 4 hour stretch by 4-5 weeks and even my DS who's a worse sleeper is going a 4 hour stretch now at 8 weeks.

You're lucky she sleeps well during the day. Try and get your rest during the day too for now.

I don’t mind waking up in the night etc but why does she sleep really good during the day but not at night

A lot of newborns have their days and nights mixed up at first. She will turn around in a few weeks. Take her out lots during the day so she's in daylight and keep things quiet and dark at night.