Should I lay her down?

[Lessthanzero]

Just started sleep training dd 10 months.

She has been in a next to me and then in our bed.

So started sat night with alot of crying. We now have just a little bit of crying but, she just stands in the cot looking at the door. She then falls asleep stood up head on the bars. If I go in to lay her down she wakes up and starts crying.

Do I leave her to sleep stood up, or do I keep going in to lay her down even though it wakes her up and sets her off.

Also since we started she has been really clingy, anyone have any idea how long this will last.

Do you mean leave her to sleep standing up with her head on the bars all night??

You've gone for a bit all or nothing if you were co-sleeping recently and now are leaving her to cry it out.
Have you looked at the gradual retreat methods?

Hi OP, I understand your need for sleep but I'm not sure going cold turkey will work for you as you have co slept for that long. And, please don't leave her to sleep standing!

Can you try the disappearing chair method. Sit by her cot in a chair until she falls asleep. Move the chair closer to the door every few nights (this could take a few weeks, for her to settle in the cot, alone, but with you there). Get to the point you are at the door, then move out of the room. Google it. This is a gentler method and shows her you are there, but gets her gradually used to sleeping independently. Right now she probably just thinks mummy has disappeared and isn't coming back!

This isn't this first attempt we have had at sleep training.

I was feeding her to sleep and then putting her down in either her cot or a travel cot in my bedroom. But I always found I couldn't get her to resettle after her night feed and the next night she would be really distressed at bedtime. Sometimes we'd have a week of her in a travel cot or her bed for all or part the night, but then she'd get too distressed at bed time (stronger willed than me) and I'd bring her back in my bed.

However in the last month she has stopped feeding to sleep and become really difficult at bed time. So we decided it was time for her to go in her own cot.

Saturday my dh was with her for 2 hours, leaving her for short periods and sitting with her. She eventually settled to sleep. Because she was so exhausted she did lay down. But then Sunday she started with this sleeping standing up. She did eventually lay down after 2 hours but then after her night feed she stood back up and stayed either stood up or on her knees the rest of the night, or for the bits I saw on the monitor.

Tonight she does keep laying down but she also keeps sleeping on her knees or standing.

So I'm not sure if I should just leave her to lie down on her own even though it could be a couple of hours before she does, or should I keep lying her down even though that wakes her up and sets her off crying.

I don’t think you can leave her sleeping standing up for 2 hours (or any length of time). For a start I can’t see that it’s particularly safe having her head resting on the top of the cot, and she will not be getting restful sleep.

OK, so I did keep laying her down, dh said I should just leave her but it just didn't feel right.

Laying her down did wake her and set her off crying but I thought she might eventually get the message.

I also moved her room round yesterday so that she could see out the door without needing to stand. Before she actually had to stand to see round the draws and out the door.

Last night, after about 30 mins of her standing and waiting she just laayed herself down, figited for a bit, then went to sleep. And then slept through the night.

This may just have been because she was so exhausted from 3 nights of very bad sleep and spending half the nights stood up. But fingers crossed this is how we are going to go on.