What age are they independent at night?

[Stella8686]

Understand this will vary between but different kids but...

What age were your DC when they started falling asleep without cuddles/ stroking/ stories and also what age when they stop creeping into your room in the middle of the night for cuddles?

My DD is 6 and doesn't seem to be anywhere near this milestone and I'm not sure wether to start being stricter on her?

Dd is 5 nest week and falls asleep alone after stories etc but will call me back in throughout the night to be tucked in if she goes to the loo etc. She has never come into our bed in the night (mean mummy but she is such a wriggler)

Depends how you handled it since babyhood. My babies were bathed, story & milk, Grobag, Twinkle Twinkle (or whatever) then a kiss & cuddle and a breezy "Night Night darling", lights off, door shut, sleep. Night time wakings were rare because they just weren't "allowed" really. (not the right word, but can't think of one). (Unless, obvs for sickness, fear, bad dreams etc). But "just for a cuddle" or messing me about - nope. Back to their room and tucked in and "night night darling" again. Beyond about 5 or 6 they rarely reappeared after 7pm, due to me and DH never wavering from the way it had always been. My boys have always had double beds too, so if ever they were poorly or frightened I would get in with them (if they wanted me to) util they fell asleep and then go back to my own bed (they knew that i would go). They never ever slept in bed with us.

However, my boys are now 17, 16 and 13 and if they get up more than just for a wee in the night, i still get up (light sleeper) to see if they're ok and if they need anything.

I know to some friends of wine i sound a bit harsh but i am also a very soppy mum and knew if i didn't set rules and boundaries right form the beginning non of us would ever sleep.

Depends how you handled it since babyhood.
I don't think that's true at all. Everyone I know has fed/cuddled to sleep, due to their babies not knowing about "drowsy but awake", and their kids have gone to sleep independently at: 15 months, 2 years, 2.5 years, 3, 5, and still not done it at 7 years and counting. (Random sampling off the top of my head.) Depends entirely on the child, I think. Sounds like you got lucky with yours.