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11 month old sleep issues

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Jasmine9033 · 08/10/2019 09:19

My 11 month old from 5-6.5 months was a great sleeper, slept through from 6pm - 6am. Then started waking between 4-5am. Sometimes would go back over, other times we had to start the day early. At 8 months, she had learnt to sit up by herself but would either fall and bang her head or lean to grab hold of rails in cot, arms would go through slots and she would hit her face and really hurt herself so I started staying besides her cot while hoping she would fall asleep. I gradually started getting her to sleep on me then transferring her into cot (I know I should have never started that) but was sometimes the only way of getting her to sleep. She would still sleep through so didn't see any harm. I then had to start doing this at naps and now I am paying the price. She won't sleep without falling asleep on me first, will then wake 4-5 times through the night. Can't do controlled crying but thought I would give the pick up put down method a go. She is sleepy after her bedtime bottle but as soon as I put her in cot she either comes alive and starts talking/clapping or will cry. I pick her up settle her put her back in cot, she cried I do the same but this can go on for hours and she gets more and more upset each time to the point where I just can't let her cry anymore so I revert to getting her to sleep on me. The other night she wouldn't even go to sleep on me and I had to put her in my bed for the night. It's getting so bad now I need to address this but don't know how, I have HV (Health Visitor) coming next week but was hoping someone could give me some advise on here. Thanks

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GlitterSparkle85 · 08/10/2019 09:36

Sounds harsh but you have to let her cry it out she will be crying out of anger and frustration as she wont be getting her way and what she is used to. Just percievere with it-it will upset you and you will feel exhausted but just maintain calmness and same routine of her not sleeping with you and she will slowly get used to it and it WILL become easier x

Harrysmummy246 · 08/10/2019 12:01

You never ever have to let a baby cry it out

Babies of this age can't express those feelings or understand why they can't have the contact they need. It's biologically normal

I don't know of anyone who bedshared with a baby who was still doing it when they got to adulthood. I do whatever gets everyone most sleep and I certainly will not EVER EVER leave my son to cry.

Teddybear45 · 08/10/2019 12:05

She is almost a year old and will be crying because she wants you around, not necessarily because she wants to co-sleep. Make the cot non-negotiable but try staying in the room with her until she falls asleep (make it similar to your existing routine).

GlitterSparkle85 · 08/10/2019 14:28

Not sure what you took from crying it out?didn't say to leave them?let her cry it out but keep putting her in her bed until she understands like @Teddybear45 said to make it non-negotiable

Harrysmummy246 · 08/10/2019 16:33

Cry it out is defined as leaving them to cry til they stop....

GlitterSparkle85 · 08/10/2019 17:03

Good luck OP hope that you find a solution to your issue it will get easier for you even though it seems like there isn't a way out you'll find something that works for you all the best for you and your LO xFlowers

user1493413286 · 08/10/2019 17:08

I had a similar problem with rocking; i spent a week gradually reducing how long I rocked DD before putting her into her cot until I was putting her in there awake and that solved all our night time problems. Maybe if at the moment it takes 10 minutes, tonight after 9 minutes you could put her down then tomorrow 8 and so on

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