When does bedtime start to get earlier??

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Hello DD age 9 weeks currently settling any time from 8:30-10:30 pm, been much closer to 10 pm the last few nights, she feeds for ages before finally settling. Apparently they tend to start settling earlier as they get a bit older... any idea when? Would just love to have an hour or two free in the evenings at some point!

No set time for a baby just the earlier you impose a routine the easier it is to get them to bed for evening. Eg. Wind down bath change feed story/bed

For DD, she started going down at 8pm by 12/13 weeks, settled on 6.30/7 around 16 weeks. But every baby is different, some take longer than others! If you know what bedtime you'd like to aim for, keep the lights low/off and voices to a whisper after that time, even if a bath-book-boob routine is impossible to start because of cluster feeding/colic/witching hour/whatever.

At 9 weeks there won't really be a cast iron routine I'm afraid. Bedtimes will fluctuate for a good while.

Thanks all, we do have a bit of a bedtime routine, she has some combination of bath/baby massage/story every night between 6 and 7. I usually then feed one side downstairs and the other upstairs in the bedroom, just doing it that way so I'm not sat in a dark room for an hour and a half! Will try dim lights in sitting room or just do the whole thing upstairs.

By 11 weeks DD went down at 6pm and that's stayed the same (she's now nearly 9 months). She found her own bedtime though that's when she naturally got tired.

Ds is now 18 weeks and tends to sleep for about 8 or 9 pm now. In the lounge with us until we go to bed at about 11 ish, then feed and into pjs and into bed in our room.

With dd I remember thinking that every time I thought we had established a routine, it all changed again!

Thanks guys - for those who started with late bedtime and it got earlier, did you do anything in specific to move it earlier (besides bedtime routine)? Or does it kind of happen naturally when they start going for longer between feeds & stop cluster feeding in evenings? Thanks.

We started doing the nighttime and daytime difference from about 9pm kept everything dark and quiet and didn't interact in a fun way from very early, maybe four weeks, to try and teach her the difference between night and day.

When she stopped crying with colic at about nine weeks she showed signs of tiredness at around 6pm and we put her to bed in the next room in her Sleepyhead with a video monitor on and the doors open. I know they're supposed to be in the same room as you but with the video monitor on and only a few feet away she slept so much better in a room without the TV flickering away and us chatting. She was literally in the next room but she would then sleep 6pm - 10pm and have a feed, sometimes going to midnight before needing a feed, and for our sanity we needed our evenings.

It happened naturally with us. We had baby in a cot next to our bed and generally his sleeping patterns matched ours until he went into his own room, sorry! We put him into his own room at 14 months and almost immediately started putting him down at 7 on the dot. It's a nice routine now :) Good luck - I have to say that I actually miss evening cuddles with him now, try not to wish it away. I know it's hard though!