Sleep and change in the night

[Hazzy135]

Last night we had an amazing night with our 3 week old newborn.
He slept for just under 5 hours.
The thing I'm unsure about is that we have been changing him after feeding on one side and then he's feeding from the other side.
Last night after that long stretch, he fed for about 45 minutes on one side and a change properly woke him up. Even after feeding on the other side, he was still awake and i tried rocking him to sleep.
He kept drifting off and then waking up a lot so in the end I put him down awake and luckily he sent himself off to sleep! (I just feel like this is very lucky for a 3 week old baby and I'm not sure it'll be a regular occurrence!).
In the day time, we struggle to put him down for naps at all because he just wants to be held but luckily he's better at night time (for now! Don't want to jinx myself).
I'm just wondering if anyone has any better ideas on changing in the night?
We change him after a feed because he HATES his nappy changed and really screams and cries. I change it just with a night light and it still really wakes him up. Doing it after a feed makes him just grumble and do little cries instead of full on screams.
We can't leave him in the night because he always has a poo so definitely needs changing.
What do you think the best plan would be? Change as soon as he wakes up and deal with the crying and then feed from one side (considering he sometimes feeds for 45 minutes from one side I think this would be plenty and I think he'd be sleepier)
OR continue with the feed change feed where he may have a shorter second feed that doesn't send him to sleep and persevere trying to put him down?
Thanks!

Personally id change nappy before feeding.
I always did that and yeah my littlen would cry because she was hungry but nappy changes are so quick they arent crying for long and then milk pretty much settles them straight away

I used to try to change before a feed, but my do used to complain and I could feel his judgement that I let her scream for two minutes while I git a new nappy her on. So then it started to be a change after a feed and then he'd have to walk with her for an hour to get her back to sleep. Apparently there was no problem with this and I shouldnt have been so quick to be fed up with it....
That being said, she eventually got
It used to a nappy change after a feed and only required a little cuddle and rock post change. I did ocassionally change her before a feed if there was a leak or if I knew there was a poop for sure.
Dd2 on the other hand used to not scream so much, so I mostly changed her beforehand so that both of us could get rest quicker after a feed.
Personal choice, no right or wrong so long as you're not leaving them in a soiled nappy on purpose!

We change before a feed