Getting baby to sleep without breast

[SpanishBump]

Hi all, my 8 month-old son has always been fed to sleep at night (putting him down when anything other than fast asleep has never worked) and fed back to sleep when he wakes up at night. I put him to sleep in other ways during the day (buggy, sling etc.), but at night he’s very dependent on me and we’d like his dad to be able to put him to bed and settle him. He’s been sleeping in a pod because our bed’s too high for a sidecar crib, but hasn’t really objected to being in a cot when one’s been available, maybe because he’s used to having his own space. The issue just seems to be that he thinks nightsleeping = boobs! If you’ve had this issue, how did you solve it? I’ve recently started a fairly strict bath-PJs-story routine at the same time every night, but there comes a point when he just wants to furiously suck. (He’s never liked dummies). Thanks!!

I’m no help I’m afraid, I could have written this post! But you’re not alone, and I’d like to see others’ answers

This probably isn't helpful but I just fed both mine to sleep until we night weaned at around 10.5 months...
Then I still fed them but not last thing and we did sush-pat to get them to sleep instead.

Following as in exact same situation with my 8 month old ds! Fed to sleep and settled with boob during night only occasionally can be rocked by DH. Will sleep in car and pram during day or short naps in cot after being fed to sleep again. It’s exhausting! Sending sympathy.

My DS is still fed to sleep at 2 but hes very very boob obsessed

Still going at 16 months 😬 so am following with interest. I'm anything for an easy life really and I can see it's getting better (she does sleep in her own cot now for a good 4+ hours at times). But I'm wondering how we'll go about weaning at night and how that'll affect sleep.

I'm here to learn too. I have an 18 month old the same and one on the way and I almost posted this same question today

I followed Lucy Wolfe's Baby Sleep Solution to break the feed to sleep cycle with my DS, after a good 11 or so months of feeding to sleep, every nap and every night. Still getting to grips with the night feed situation but just having DH able to do bedtime routine has been wonderful and a huge improvement. It was hard to start with but almost a couple of months down the line it has been totally worth it.

There was some tears but the idea is that you are there to support your DC as they learn to settle themselves, so you're not leaving them alone to cry. I also found the suggested timetable for naps and feeding really useful. It worked for us anyway it might be worth looking into

Ds stopped feeding himself to sleep at bedtime about a year. That was a pain in the butt. We continued night feeds at every wake up til VERY gentle night weaning at 21 mo (he gave up on day feeds by himself about 18 mo)

Still have to do bedtime myself most of the time at 2.2 as he has a sh**fit otherwise and while he sleeps through several nights a week, he still needs me if he wakes, and DH is not an acceptable alternative

Made some progress last night. My partner tried to give him a bottle, and he wasn’t having any of it. So I breastfed him, but when he was still a little bit awake I laid him in his pod, held him firmly on his side - where he often likes to sleep these days - and shhhh patted his bum. He fell asleep and stayed like that for at least 3 hours. Shhhhh-ing can often soothe him in the night too, without physical contact. Tonight I couldn’t quite pull if off, but he was very overtired. Anyone else had any success?