If you sleep trained your first what did you do for second baby?

[JamesonCask]

Just that really, what did you do for your second? How early did you start or what did you start with?

I didn't train second. I felt so bad after doing CC with my first that I couldn't do it again
DC1 slept through from 6 months, when we trained her
DC2 slept through from about 14 months under his own steam
No regrets, though nighttime wakes for all that time was hard for DH!

Let the second one sleep in my bed until she didn't want to anymore. Went to her every time she squeaked in the night and still do. She's now 2 and a half and mostly sleeps through. I wish I'd done the same for the first one.

Really! I don't regret sleep training my first, maybe I have forgotten what it was like

I’m not quite who you asked, but didn’t sleep train first and didn’t sleep for three years. Sleep trained second at 8 months (gradual withdrawal) and I will certainly do that again if I have a third.

I sleep trained my first and haven't for my second. I did however ensure he had max 1hr awake windows as a newborn, gradually get him used to sleeping in his cot from 4 weeks old and introduce a loose routine from 6 weeks so both children would take their afternoon nap at the same time.

Both mine are completely different sleepers - sleep training her was the right thing to do at the time. She desperately needed more sleep and wasn't getting it as she was the master of avoiding sleep (and would be awake from 9am-6pm without napping at 3 months old). Sleep training helped resolve that and she's been a much happier baby and better sleeper ever since. I should also add she didn't get hysterical at any point when we did sleep train her

He is the opposite - if tired, nothing can keep him awake and I couldn't manage the awake windows of a recommended routine for his age when under 6 months so didn't force him to stay awake for them. However he was (and still is) a terrible sleeper at night. I don't know what the solution is to that as I feel sleep training will traumatise us all - his personality is different to hers and he will get hysterical, even if I stay in the room with him like I did with her. Im living in hope it will fix itself in the next few months

When my eldest was about 10 months I finally realised I had to do something about her sleep - specifically she needed to learn to self-settle. I didn't do controlled crying but more of a gradual withdrawal. It worked very well and I wished I'd done it a couple of months or more earlier.

My youngest didn't feed to sleep the way the eldest did. He was easy to put down from the start and we never had to do anything about his sleep. (apart from, later, teaching him not to wake up at 5 am - but that's rather different to getting them to sleep earlier in the night / sleep through).

If you haven't already please do some research if you are considering the controlled crying method

First sleep trained, is currently sound asleep in bed where she’s been since 7pm. She’ll only wake for the toilet and be up at about 7am.

Didn’t sleep train second. She’s still up, will go to bed with us and probably wake several times in the night. Left to her own devices, she’ll wake up around 9am. We’re well past the sleep training age range with her so we’ve definitely made a rod for our own backs.

Subsequent children trained themselves to sleep through the simple process of non-action and neglect or watching their parents collapse and sleep

With the second I just made sure to not have any bad sleep habits

Did controlled crying with 1st at 13 months when he would no longer be breastfed or rocked to sleep. Didn't make him sleep through (he still fed at night) but did mean he settled when our down after a fed. He's 3.5 now and a great wee sleeper.

Will do the same with this one as needed, he's 9 months now and a crap sleeper (although be was great for first 6 months) but not until he's at least a year. For now we usually end up co-sleeping to get some sleep

Don't let anyone make you feel bad for controlled crying, parents only even consider it when at the end of their tether

Sleep training my first (only current) baby now! He slept through for the first time in 9 months last night. He was waking 8 times a night this time last week. Best thing we've ever done. He has hardly cried! Nowhere near as bad as I expected. I read a lot of stuff that made me feel guilty, hence waiting so long, but having done it I can see that it hasn't harmed him at all. He is still a smiling, loving, happy boy!

We sleep trained our first but not our second. At 7 months ds woke every 60-90 minutes (90 max)and would not settle in our bed, he needed feeding and rocking to sleep which took around 30 minutes. We sleep trained him at 11 months and it took around 3 weeks, worked really well. With dd she just slept pretty well , only waking maybe once or twice a night for the first year and would always settle in our bed so we never needed to.

Further to what I just said I don't have a second but I would definitely sleep train again if he/she were a bad sleeper!

I didnt sleep train my first. He was an amazing sleeper from about 6 weeks. My 2nd was recently waking every 45 minutes wanting to bf as that was his sleep association. I done controlled crying and it has been a life saver. He actually sleeps now.
It's not been so hard and things were much better after just two days. I also got guidance from health visitor after reading lots of conflicting information. I dont feel guilty. I know some people disagree with the method but that's the way with anything. My baby is loved, healthy, happy and cared for PLUS everyone now gets more sleep :)

I sleep trained my first who goes through periods of sleeping great and periods of being up 2/3 times a night
I didn't sleep train my second and he's an absolute pain in the backside at night

So.......my experience is that they'll sleep or not sleep regardless of what you do. They are what they are
Mine like company and that's that

Thanks everyone, I have a 7 week old and 4 year old and trying to avoid the mistakes I made with 4 year old