Baby won't sleep for more than 45 mins...

[absolutehush]

DAY OR NIGHT!!!

At one point she was going 4-5 hours but now she is waking at the 45-60 min mark. In the day I don't mind so much but it's killing me overnight!

I have a good bedtime routine and she goes down at 7-7.15ish. I feed to sleep (yes I know) and I can put her down just fine. It's just the staying down. How can I get her to sleep for longer??

Will try everything, although a bit afraid of CIO

Once she's going down easily on her own she'll be less likely to wake at night anyway.
Drowsy but awake doesn't exist for lots of babies until much older. And though DD can do it (occasionally) she continues to wake up every 90 minutes most nights whether I feed her to sleep or she DIYs it. Self-settling is only a tiny piece of the baby sleep puzzle.

@burritofan ok, that's interesting as I've always felt that drowsy but awake hasn't ever happened for us. She's either asleep or wide awake. I do watch her like a hawk and try but it's impossible!

I had one of these babies, it almost killed us. The only thing that worked was gentle controlled crying, for 1 minute, go in and pat and gentle soothing noises (not pick up), then 2 minutes, then 3 minutes etc. We didn't go longer than about 5 mins before dd finally went to sleep.

I'm all for attachment parenting but when it means no one including baby is getting enough sleep it's time to change it up. Dd was much happier once she started sleeping for longer. She's never been a good sleeper though, still sometimes wakes in the night and she's 4.

To follow on what I said upthread - once toddler-baby had a bit of vocabulary nap time went:

"NO NO NO NO TIRED NO COT NO COT NO SLEEP NO NAP NO NAP NO NAP" for a few minutes which then clicked directly into snoring like a switch had been flipped. It was almost funny to hear but helped us to understand the nonverbal crying before sleep a few months previously before there were any words had effectively the same meaning. ie generally railing against the whole concept of tiredness and rebelling against the reality of sleep being needed. That really helped me realise the truth that different kinds of cries need different responses.

Have you tried white noise and a muslin cloth as comforters ?

@peachgreen my LO can settle herself to sleep at bedtime and has been doing so for weeks now but she still wakes every 45-90mins and unable to self settle when she wakes.

Also tried white noise and few different comforters and a dummy but she’s not interested in any of them.

The only thing we haven’t tried yet is controlled crying, I’m holding out to see if it improves itself first but not sure how much longer I can last...!

Still interested in what other things worked for you guys in case I’ve missed something!

Wishing you all a goodnight!

Having a good night here - she has been down for a frankly MIRACULOUS three hours. I don't trust it to be honest!!

Think that DH's dedication to letting her cry for 5 mins each time she wakes might have done it. Or it's a fluke, we will see.

Good luck everyone!

@absolutehush that’s great news, I hope it continues 🤞🏽

Well, it was a good night (by our standards!). Three wake ups and feeds, each three hours apart. I feel awful - worse. I suppose that's what happens when you get more sleep than you're used to?

@absolutehush Whenever DP takes our daughter & I have a proper deep sleep rather than the light co-sleep interrupted dozes I usually get, I feel WRETCHED. It's like my body gets a taste of what it's been missing and cannot cope. I've given up lie-ins and naps now, I'll wait til she sleeps through (if she ever does...) to recover!

Well done on the sleep, despite feeling awful it must also feel good to know she can do it?

Wow that’s amazing @absolutehush

Weirdly my LO also had a 3.5hour and a 2.5hour sleep last night which has not happened for weeks (I can’t even remember the last time that happened!!). Although the rest of the night was pretty rubbish I was so happy to know that she is able to sleep longer than 45-90mins!

Hoping last night wasn’t a one off for us both and wishing everyone else a good night!

😆 @burritofan so true!

@SonicMum86 yay! Hope you're feeling rested? She's been down for 3 hours and just woke for a 25 min feed which is so unlike her (she's a 5 min girl) so I'm hoping that the next stretch might even be longer!!

Fingers crossed for you tonight.

@burritofan I'm glad it's normal! I was a bit sad to feel worse!

I can confirm normal service has been resumed and we're back to every 45 mins

I got 6 hours... because he was in bed with me
i can’t co sleep again and need to get this cracked asap!

@sonicmum86 @absolutehush
Jumping in on this thread as I'm in the same boat! I'm assuming its a sleep regression as it started at 3.5months and DS is now 5 months and things are just getting worse!

He has never slept amazingly well but went from waking generally every 3-4 hours to every 1-2 hours (sometimes less) and really fights going back to sleep. I'm 6 weeks in and am completely drained. Daytime naps are also getting worse, he can't seem to do more than 30 mins at a time which I'm sure isn't helping the night time sleep...

Have things improved for anyone? Really hoping there is light at the end of the tunnel...

(I've bought the baby sleep solution book but am yet to implement anything as I think he's still too young for sleep training.)

Welcome!

So good and bad news here. We appear to have nighttime down to bed at 7, resettle at 8.30-9, feed 11, feed 2-3, feed 5-6.

Daytime naps are rubbish though, but it might be poor management by me (keep going to playgroups etc at the wrong time).

I think CIO combined with PUPD is the way for us. I've now seen her settle herself a few timed (not to sleep the first time but if she wakes in the night IYSWIM)

Good luck tonight everyone

@absolutehush glad things have improved for you again!

@Junebug55 oh no, I really hope things get better for you and that it doesn’t seem last as long as it has / is for us.

We had 2 good (for my standards, which are low!) nights but now back to 45-90min wake ups.

We had tried PUPD a few weeks ago which worked really well for a few days and then LO wasn’t having any of it and it seemed to overstimulate her then. Really hope it continues to work for you @absolutehush, maybe combined with CIO it will be more successful than it was for us.

My LO has reflux so I’m just waiting for that to get sorted before I try any more sleep training (although hoping things will sort themselves before that - highly unlikely though 😔)!

Hope you all get lots of zzz’s in tonight!

@SonicMum86 I just wanted to sympathise on the reflux as mine is also a reflux baby. I'm just starting to wean her off the omeprazole .

I really feel that the reflux is what started her poor sleep habits as I help her/let her sleep on me all the time as she was in agony.

Well I spoke too soon. Third wake up since 6.30ish. Gah!

@absolutehush thanks, poor babies, I feel so bad for them as the reflux must make them really uncomfortable.

So sorry to hear the night hasn’t started well, hopefully it has / will improve!

I have been cosleeping with LO over the last week as that helps (v slightly!) but have just moved the cot into our room next to our bed, in place of the next to me crib (which she grew out of) to see if that changes anything.

It will get my better with time. Feeding to sleep is not a bad thing by the way!
My lo is fed to sleep and can wake up 1-3 times a night but generally sleeps 5-7 hours straight. Used to wake a lot more especially around 4 &6/7 months. Now 10 months old. Can settle back down himself but if he needs milk will call for me/cry. Has a quick feed then back to sleep.

She seems very young for them to have suggested weaning off her meds, I’d wait to try and crack the sleeping if I were you. My eldest was 11 months before we tried to wean off the Omeprazole.
This thread might be worth a read for sleep suggestions.
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/sleep/1394888-What-worked-for-us-Hope-this-helps

We hit a new low this weekend, waking up between every 20- 60 minutes between 7pm and 4am. He's also becoming increasingly hard to settle, won't take his dummy etc. I ended up feeding him back to sleep almost every time. The crying was relentless, almost like he was in pain... I resorted to co sleeping at 4am but even that only gave us 90 mins, he still woke up screaming next to me. Poor little thing must be exhausted. :( Tonight we've had one 2 hour stint and then he's woken every hour so far. Trying to resist putting him in our bed but its so hard!! Feels like this will never end :(

Also bad here! She only wants to sleep on me and it's just not sustainable. Last week I really felt like maybe we were progressing.

It's just so hard. I miss sleep. I look shit and I'm getting fat because all I do is snack for energy.