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4 month old/ ready for own room?

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CourtneyB123 · 30/08/2019 08:30

So we are currently teething and going through the 4 month sleep regression and it is a nightmare. LO has just started rolling both ways so have taken him out moses basket and set up a travel cot in our room as a temporary transition to the cot. But, his sleep at night now is so interrupted (and mine) he is tossing and turning constantly and smacking his feet down. In short just wondered what age people where putting their little ones in their own room? I dont really like the idea of it but for a better nights sleep for us all maybe it's worth a try?

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Mintypea5 · 30/08/2019 08:37

My eldest went into his own room at 4 months ish as we had to love and there wasn't space for him in our room. We had a
Monitor and it was fine (very small flat so he might as well have been in our room!)

however the safe sleep guidelines advise keeping baby in with you until 6 months. We kept DS2 in with us until 6/7 months ... nosing sleeper and sleep regression made it hard but it was easy to manage settling him again and feeds

BrokenLink · 30/08/2019 08:49

Maybe he is uncomfortable in the travel cot? They tend to have very thin mattresses.

Bobojangles · 30/08/2019 08:53

6 months is the guidelines. My ds has just gone into his own room at 8 months (took a while to get the cot put together) and is also in the throws of teething and a sleep regression.... It's not helped at all! He's been in our bed every night Confused Grin babies eh!

MoreSlidingDoors · 30/08/2019 08:54

We had a
Monitor and it was fine (very small flat so he might as well have been in our room!)

A monitor isn’t a replacement for them hearing you breathe (thought to be a safety mechanism which reminds them to).

Fruityb · 30/08/2019 08:59

My son went into his own room at four months. He had also outgrown his Moses basket and was also in a travel cot! We had to put his cot mattress in it as the travel mattress was like a wooden board. But we were all waking each up and it was becoming a real problem! We’d just got over regression and so we put him in his cot with a monitor and a sensor Mat. I checked on that monitor constantly - it had video on it too - and was always in to see how he was but we all slept a million times better! He’s always settled well in his own bed - till he turned two lol - and the monitor was great.

Always scary when you turned it on at night to see if he was ok to see him looming right at the camera 😂

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CourtneyB123 · 30/08/2019 15:25

To be fair the travel cot mattress is actually quite comfortable as far as they go, it's just he keeps moving around and the dragging of the feet on the bed is waking us both up, he is constantly throwing his arms and legs up in his sleep and we just cant settle, not sure if I should ride it out or see how he gets on, I know the recommendation is 6 months but we have a cotbed and it's far too big for our room. Just on my way to get a sensor mat and a monitor, Fruityb did you find your little one slept better on his own?

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Fruityb · 30/08/2019 15:30

He slept loads better on his own and so did we. He always slept well to be honest - he slept 9-7 by 8 weeks old - but with regression and his constantly shuffling it was me that wasn't sleeping! We were all the better for it and as much as I was always checking on him we weren't waking each other up.

I know they say six months but he was napping in there by this point and we never had a problem with the transition.

Even now on the rare occasions he wakes in the night - if he comes in the spare room with me he asks to go back in his own bed after a while. He just likes his own space (now anyway... we had a couple of weeks where he was coming in our bed at 4am when he was two and a bit lol)

Marinetta · 30/08/2019 15:34

I was advised that the baby should go in a seoerate room no earlier than 6 months. I also have a 4 month old going through teething and sleep regression. I found that the only thing that seems to calm him at night is sleeping in the bed beside me. He doesn't sleep through the night but moves less and sleeps for longer stretches. I was against cosleeping at first but at the moment its the only way I get any sleep. I'm hoping that once sleep regression is over he will go back in his cot and I'm planning to move him to his own room at around 8 months old.

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CourtneyB123 · 02/09/2019 17:44

I appreciate what everyone is saying but we arent sleeping at all he is getting up every 2 hours and staying up for 2 hours before going back to sleep, all the shuffling around etc is just waking him up and us it's a nightmareConfused I'm going to try him in his cot tonight but any issues bring him back in, I'm dreading it if I'm honest but surely cant get any worse than it has been the last week!?

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CourtneyB123 · 02/09/2019 17:46

Thanks Fruityb that's very reassuring! Going to try tonight I dont think I was this sleep deprived even him as a newborn haha!

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AndNoneForGretchenWieners · 02/09/2019 17:51

DS was in his own room at about 4 months after DH started working shifts and disturbing DS in the night when he got up. I had a monitor and it was fine. I suspect he slept better on his own anyway because at the time I had undiagnosed sleep apnoea and sounded like a wart hog when I slept.

NeatFreakMama · 02/09/2019 17:52

We had this and the 6 month guideline pressured me into keeping him with us and we all kept each other awake. I'm pregnant now and with my next I'll move him around 4 months into a close room and with a sensor matt. We just didn't sleep for months, including him!

jimmyjab · 02/09/2019 19:22

We moved around 4 months too for the same reasons. Got a sensor mat with monitor so that helped reassure us. Honestly it doesn't always work out like this but she slept really well from the first night! Dh snoring was definitely disturbing her.

Harrysmummy246 · 02/09/2019 21:30

He went into his cot at 4 mo but one of us slept in there on a single bed too til 6 mo

then he was ill, i was ill, teething, blah de blah and we bedshared

Then I stopped being able to put the heavy lump back down to the bottom of the cot asleep and he went into a floor bed at 14 mo. And about 2, standard single bed with a very small bumper

BendingSpoons · 02/09/2019 21:37

The SIDS risk is highest from 2-4 months. With DD I moved her at 4.5 months as she was such a noisy sleeper. She was breastfed, full term, we don't smoke etc so no other risk factors for SIDS. DS is still in the room with me at 6.5 months as his sleep is poor and I don't want to be back and forth all night.

MumUndone · 02/09/2019 21:59

Put a proper, comfortable cot mattress in the travel cot.

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CourtneyB123 · 04/09/2019 09:40

Thanks everyone. I've had him in his own room for two nights and he has slept like a dream. I understand there is risks involved just as there is in pretty much anything (co-sleeping, weaning early etc). But I suppose every baby is different. I really didnt want him in his own room because I worry so much, but we have all slept better as a result. To be fair I still get up often to check on him, even though we have monitors the ones with a camera etc but I'm still sleeping better Haha! Maybe he was just ready for his own space we were all getting restless nights. I agree with post above you do get a lot of pressure ensuring you follow the guidelines and I respect that but you also have to do what's best for your families

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Bumpandtoddler · 04/09/2019 09:43

My baby went into his own room at 5/6weeks. He was too noisy for us and we for him. My husband would wake him up when he got ready for work. He is fine. Pregnant with no2 now and considering putting it straight into own room so toddler doesn't feel put out

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