Newborn nighttime madness. Any help?

[GarlicChickenKiev]

Hey ladies, looking for any advice.

We came home with our beautiful baby girl on Saturday evening. Our first three days in hospital were fab and she slept so well at night.

At home we have had great days and she's barely ever upset.

Last night and tonight have been really awful. If she's not at the boob she screams the place down, it's heartbreaking hearing her cry so hard.

She seems as if she's asleep at the boob but doesn't unlatch herself. If I unlatch her she seems content whilst beside me but gets very upset when in her crib (she's slept fine here at other times of the day).

Now that my milk has come in there's more nappy changes which wakes her up more. It's a bit of a vicious circle and would appreciate any advice. Thank you.

Sounds like cluster feeding - think my 3 month old is on one of those tonight! She will literally just keep feeding until she's had enough, so just keep her at the boob until she decides to fall asleep, which could still be a couple of hours! It's so hard and frustrating, but it should only be a couple of days!

Don’t panic this all sounds very normal. She’s so tiny. You’re both doing great!

Cosleep. Im a one tricky pony when it comes to sleep.

We used little cotton nightdresses when ours were tiny. Much easier to change without waking.

It's also worth trying g a Muslin cloth with a few drops of your milk on it, secured safely in her crib, so it smells of you. (Tuck it in over the sheer at the head of the crib.

Also swaddling can be miraculous. Use one of those light, stretchy blankets. Tiny babies love to be swaddled as it makes them feel enclosed and safe.

Can't advise re feeding,sorry.

Congratulations though. New babies are lovely

Don’t change nappies at night if they are only wet!

Co-sleep, it is safe if guidelines are followed. Saved my sanity!

Congratulations! Babies go through lots of little developmental leaps and growth spurts. Cluster feeding can feel like it will never end, but it is just babies way of putting in their order for tomorrow! Hang in there, drink plenty, make sure you have a pack of biscuits to hand and this phase will not last for long. Look up "wonder weeks" gives you an idea when to expect these phases - first one is at 10days
I second swaddling and not changing at night for wee! My baby also liked white noise.

And white noise. I love my hummy.

Congratulations! Google the fourth trimester. What she is doing is completely normal, she’s so young and doesn’t understand yet that she is separate from you and naturally wants to be as close to you as possible. My DS had a next to me crib but wouldn’t even go in that for the first couple of weeks, he wanted to be in the warmth of our bed. Safe co sleeping got us through the first two or three weeks and then we bought a Sleepyhead and he slept 3-4 hour stretches in that in the crib. People dispute the safety of these but it was a godsend for us. My DS hated to be swaddled but it works for many others. X

The nighttime nappies do eventually settle down once they sort out day from night. (Barring stomach upsets etc.) I remember my first night with DD I changed nine nappies overnight in-between feeding and settling, got zero sleep, and just thought "What have I done?" (Still get zero sleep, mind, but I no longer have to get out of bed and deal with poo )

Cosleeping was our salvation. She goes through phases of being able to sleep in a sidecar crib. Currently sleeps in my armpit, more or less. Repeat to yourself that everything, good or bad, is just a phase.