Have posted a few times now about combined problems of DS and DD;s sleeping. Have now reached point where I feel I don't know how I'm going to get through today, never mind any more nights.
DS (2.9) was a dreadful sleeper from birth but now is OK. He wakes once in the night for a drink (can never find it on his own, despite night light) and once early morning for nappy change and milk (usually drops off again after this).
DD (20 weeks) started off nowmally, for a newborn. I was feeding her 3 times a night. Then she started not settling back after her first night feed (at aroun 10-11pm). I have tried a dummy, but she just spits it out and won't settle for anything other than breast. Although co-sleeping means no-sleeping for me (I'm a v light sleeper and she wriggles a lot), I've ended up bringing her into bed with me and spending the rest of the night feeding lying down, whihc at least doesn;t require me to remember not to drop her. I can;t sleep while feeding lying down though .
Last night she literally fed all night through. She seems to be almost asleep throughout, but the minute I withdraw nipple, she screams.
The few times I did drop off, DS woke with a bad dream, and our neighbours came in late, banging door and shouting (woke me, baby and DS - this happens quite a lot)
DD feeds well and regularly throughout the day (about every 3 hours or less), and only has 2 30-40 min naps during daytime, so I can;t reduce her day sleep or feed her any more, really.
I have tried the last 3 days to give baby rice at teatime, both before and after a BF. She takes it but then spits it all out and starts gagging if I try and put it further back in her mouth. So I couldn't get her to take any. Not sure if solids will help her sleep more but I feel it's worth a try - can anyone tell me what other than baby rice might be successful? I gave DS mashed banana but someone told me anything other than baby rice would upset dd's tummy too much.
Sorry about the rambling incoherent nature of this post but I am just too knackered to organise my thoughts. Please help me