My 14 month old is a bad sleeper

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Does anyone have any ideas as to why my 14th month old has never settled, and is a light sleeper. He won't self soothe and because of that he's a moody little boy. He was diagnosed with sleep apnea and reflux but would grow out of it by 1 and now I'm at my absolute wits end because he needs a good nights sleep. And he full on refuses to, which leads to a irritable moody boy

What’s his sleep like can you give more details? He is too young to self soothe that developmentally happens sometime after 2.5.

He is too young to self soothe that developmentally happens sometime after 2.5

Sorry but that's nonsense. My 18mo has been self-soothing both initially and during the night since she was about 7 months old.

OP, have you taken him back to the doctor to check his reflux and apnea?

It’s not nonsense, it is unusual for young children to be able to self soothe.
It’s not that long since he turned 1 so as above maybe get the apnoea and reflux checked.

My 17-week-old refused to feed back to sleep last night and self-soothed to sleep. Still woke up an hour later and every hour after that so it's not a miracle cure or a holy grail.

He's not refusing to sleep, he obviously can't without help. Second the suggestion about following up with the reflux and sleep apnea, were you told it would be gone by one (ie a prediction) or that it has gone?

@creatureofthenight It is nonsense to say that children can't self soothe before 2.5.

True self soothing requires the ability to regulate your emotions- small children cannot do this. However, if they are calm, not overtired and have no other needs at that time then they can certainly fall asleep without intervention from a parent or carer.

Self settling is most definitely not the holy grail, my 14m old self settles beautifully......then wakes 4-6 times overnight.....not a clue why

He fidgets and is restless throughout the night, he fights sleep every night and nap times unless he's cuddled and even then he screams until he passes
out. I will have to arrange a gp appointment. The doctor predicted that it would be gone be age 1, as he was born premature and they thought it was to do with that.