Feel like I have no idea

[Bronnie2018]

Hi Mums...

I feel like I have no idea whether I'm doing the right thing or not ...with regards to my DD now 13 months , routine and day to day.

I'm alone most of the day whilst hubby is at work... our rough day goes like this..

Wakes anywhere between 8am and 8.30am
Breakfast 9.30
Walk to park between 10.30 and 11.30
Lunch 12/12.30
Nap anywhere between 1 and 2 for 45 mins or 2 hours!!!
More playtime around 3/4
Dinner 5.30
Bath 6/630
Books and breastfeed....7
Cuddles and songs with Daddy
Bedtime from 8.30.

Feel like I do the same thing everyday and DD must be bored of me and the house and the park..basically I feel like I have no idea what I'm doing and just stuck in a rut. I don't have close family nearby and I only see a few work colleagues once maybe twice a fortnight for a play date.

Feeling quite low in myself and DD has been teething badly so sleepless nights!!

Feel like I'm letting DD down - if I had a bigger family all round would it be better. She basically just has me and hubby.

Any advice please help x

Similar to my day with my ds 16 months. But on a morning after breakfast we do house work, he helps load the washer/dryer, has his own hoover to 'help', put toys in the playroom etc. He then has a nap, once awake we have lunch and then try go somewhere in the afternoon, doesn't have to be child based like a park, sometimes it's just running errands allowing time for him to walk rather than being stuck in a buggy then he's not fussed where we are.

I like the idea of the help with the housework! DD is shuffling and somewhat crawling at the moment...is interested in everything obviously!

I've just got this anxiousness about her not being around a lot of people. On trips to the supermarkets she will just people watch with quite a serious look. People always comment that she must be due for a nap - or why is your baby so quiet...I just say she's teething as an excuse most of the time....

Have you looked for baby groups in your area? I know she’s young but what about soft play, I take my 13 month old when we’re stuck for something to do, she doesn’t do very much there but crawls round and explores everything in the baby section and is showing more confidence each time we go. Swimming is another good one and it tired them out! Museum, library, beach?

I am going to explore swimming with her and also going to an event at the library- a story time. I live right out in the country so only a small village is closest.

I'm trying to organise a play date with a friend next week.

I've been feeling like the worse mum in the world recently...the teething was worse last night...would not go down until 1am! Hubby away on a business course so was all by myself.

I'm hoping that the swimming may tire her.

She's a very happy baby but just quiet when we are out in public places but what's wrong with that? I should ignore people really...comments are just making chit chat i suppose...

She's a very happy baby but just quiet when we are out in public places but what's wrong with that? I should ignore people really...comments are just making chit chat i suppose...
My DD is much younger than yours but sounds the same: constantly babbles & coos and smiles at home, but put her in the sling and take her out and she just watches, wide-eyed and serious-looking. I think she's just taking it all in and processing.

Definitely ignore people! Strangers can't possibly know if she's due a nap or is unhappy or, frankly, anything.

Your local church should run a playgroup - usually a £3 contribution and there are lots of toys and other babies (and mums!!) and they run usually 10-11.30ish. Saved me during mat leave!!