Unable to get anything done

[mamatoizzybee]

Please tell me I'm not the only one here!

My 6month old won't nap in her cot in the day. Not even for 5 mins ! I spend my weeks either walking her , driving her , or feeding her (and sitting with her) to sleep .

When she is awake , I have to sit and play with her or stimulate her otherwise she screams !! Literally nothing gets done in the house to the point where my brain is so mushed as I get no break , I can't even think about anything else! I am so bored and tired and unstimulated . I don't know what to talk to my husband about any more !

I go out most days just to get out the house otherwise I sit there looking at all the chores that haven't been done and that gets to me. I meet up with friends and their babies , go into town , go for drives in the country - all of that is very nice and keeps me out of the house , but it doesn't make me feel any better as I just want to be able to hoover or clean a toilet!! I am not an obsessive cleaner just FYI , and not especially house proud - but I do like to clean every now and again 😩

I worry that I won't ever be able to have a break for the next 3 years of my daughters toddler life as I know when she gets more mobile I will have to keep even more of a close eye on her when she's awake. I worry that I will have to help her to sleep for those 3 years too! Someone please reassure me that their babies learnt to sleep on their own eventually ?!

I would get a cleaner. And stick your daughter in a sling or high chair and make the chores the entertainment. DD watches me prep dinner, fold laundry, etc – just yap on while you're doing it.

But I also get very little done; all naps are sling/pram. I hate it as I'm not a natural slattern but this too shall pass, etc, world wont end if the loo gets filthy or dust gathers under the sofa

She will change as she gets older. My DD was like this, wouldn't go in a cot, needed me every waking moment. By a year she was much better, honestly.

@RedSheep73 thank you SO much! I just needed to hear someone else say they went through this and it changes and gets better ! It's silly how much I need someone just to reassure me that things change . Being a first time parent it's so difficult to know what to expect and even though I know I shouldn't , I end up comparing myself to other mums and then feeling like I'm doing a rubbish job !! Maybe that's normal now I'm a mum !!

Do you have a baby gym or jumparoo? My little girl would play in her jumparoo while I hoovered and polished the living room and would also put her in her high chair while I cleaned the kitchen and keep passing toys to her. I sleep trained for naps at six months as well so I’d get maybe an hour to have some lunch and put the washing out. It really does get easier!

@mamatoizzybee I feel for you my baby was exactly the same and she never slept through the night either. I went out every single day with her because I couldn't sit around looking at what needed to be done. It gave me anxiety. She's nearly 10 months now and things have improved. Agree with the suggestions of jumperoos etc that can give you a few minutes peace. I found wearing the baby carrier worked too wearing it indoors - not ideal but better than nothing. Don't get me wrong she is still not a great napper but I can now get an hour or so out of her during the day (bar some bad days when you'll find me walking around the park for the millionth time). I am planning on getting a cleaner once we've had some decorating done. Previously I would have classed this as a luxury but it will be worth every penny.

PS I'm a first time mum too and really have to zone out from comparing myself to other mums. You will drive yourself crazy. All babies are different and do thing in their own way and in their own time. It's got absolutely nothing to do with whether you are a good mum. It does get better xx