There are actually a few issues here surrounding the fact that dh hasn't been very involved in the getting ds to sleep process. It's not his fault, as I was breastfeeding and ds, up until very recently, fell asleep while feeding, and when he woke in the night I used to feed him back to sleep, so it was always me. However, I no longer feed him when he wakes up in the night, I just cuddle him for a while till he's calm enough to go back to bed or sometimes have to lie down with him for a bit. If dh tries this ds just cries hysterically and I always end up having to get up as I can't stand him crying. I think it's making dh feel bad that he isn't comforted by him. They have a great relationship otherwise. It's kind of a similar story at bedtime. He doesn't always feed to sleep anymore and when he doesn't we need to sit with him until he falls asleep as he seems to be going through a bit of a separation anxiety phase at the moment and cries if we leave him. I plan to stop breastfeeding soon (only bedtime one left) and want to get dh more involved in bedtime process as then there won't be any good reason for me doing it all. As it is I can't go anywhere in the evening unless ds is in bed asleep and after a year, this is getting a bit annoying. I know I can't complain about this too much as it was my choice to breastfeed, and I was too lazy to want to bother with expressing so dh could do night feeds, but I've had enough. Sorry this is a bit long and ranty, but has anyone else had similar problems?