the dreaded CC

[Peaches2018]

Hi everyone

Very long history short: my DS (13 months) had been a good sleeper till 8 months but missed a routine. Got a routine set with help of The No Cry Sleep solution book, did PU/PD method for a week and Lo and behold he slept fine. Fast forward this year 10 months old he has thrown out his sleep schedule and routine and basically everything else out of the window. I've had him waking up all hours of the night and ready to go at 4 or 5 am at latest and eventually I ended up giving in, him co-sleeping with me and me trying to get him to fall asleep for over 1 hour or more.

I tried CC before but think I didn't do it properly. Could anyone give me any tips regarding this? I would love to do the PU/PD but I know he's too big and too old for that now otherwise I would've done that straight away

When you cosleep, does he sleep well? I'm no help to you with cc as I just ended up having him in with me till 18 months - we both slept better but he did agree to move to a new bed finally, thankfully!

No he doesn't really and neither do I since he moves around the bed and is all over the place

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CC saved my sanity twice! Did it at 14 months with DD, then much earlier with DS (he was disturbing her and she needed to get up for school). Our house was much happier when it was over and done with, because everybody slept. Teaching a child to sleep is just as important as anything else, imo. If cosleeping isn't working for your family, to the point that the baby isn't sleeping either, then it's not the right thing to do.

We did 1min intervals. So we'd put them in the cot, tuck in, say goodnight/love you/etc, then stand outside the door. They'd shout, and after 1 min we'd shush them. Then wait 2 mins, shush again. Then 3, 4, etc. We agreed that 10 was our limit, then we'd just keep repeating 10mins, but it never got that far. I think with DD we got to 6mins, DS around the same.

Two or three days later and they both slept through, and were happy to go to bed. DD is 5 and doesn't remember at all, although we talked about it when we were going to do it with DS. DS is 1 and doesn't seem traumatised in the slightest, loves his bed.

Good luck OP!

We did more or less exactly as pp has described. It took 3 nights but worked like a charm and I never regretted it.

www.google.co.uk/amp/s/www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/moral-landscapes/201611/sleep-train-baby-don-t%3famp

Thank you @CoodleMoodle & @missyB1 that sounds really good! I had good results with the PU/PD method but I read that it's not really suited for babies over 1 weight wise to lift & because they see the picking up as a reward for crying as I understood it so temporarily resorted to co sleeping but I / DS sadly can't get a full rest so this is literally my last option. I do think I'm in for a few rough evenings as DS now knows he gets picked up if he insists long enough and DH has brought him down several times to " burn his energy off" while DS was already overtired by that point

I did it as described above and it worked perfectly.

I was the biggest critic of any cc method and coslept with ds1 and ds2 until 20 months, however ds3 wouldn't cosleep or respond to any other method so out of desperation I did it and finally at 18 months he sleeps!

I did CC when my DS turned 1 after a hellish 12 months of constant getting up in the night. Last resort and absolute hell doing it, but it's paying off.
As it's been explained, I did exactly the same. Happy bedtime routine - bath, pyjamas, a nice story and a bottle in bed and then love you etc and left. The 1st night took a long time for him to settle (he was angry I wasn't with him) but kept at it with the reassuring and little words said, most of the time I just shhh'd and stroked his hair and left and repeated. At 1st I think he tired himself out more than anything but he did sleep on many nights, some nights he still woke up but I repeated the process during the night (tiring but had to stick to it). It took 7/8 nights and one night I put him to bed with no tears.
Still had some bad nights since (teeth & hot weather) but on the days he's been ok I've stuck at it and night times are much better. This could all change as my DS is very unpredictable but it saved me.
Sometimes you've got to be cruel to be kind, they need their sleep to help them grow and develop and we need our sleep to be on top form for the chaos during the day!
Be prepared for mum guilt, but as long as they know mummy hasn't abandoned them and they're ok, it's for their own good to settle themselves.
I hope it works out for you!

@QuilliamCakespeare that article also says that unless you can stay at home with your baby for at least the first 3 years of their life you should not have children. And anyone with a child with a difficult personality or issues sleeping is to blame for not being ‘responsive enough’. Load of rubbish