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Co-sleeping / bed sharing/ won't be put down - help please!

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MrsB19 · 24/07/2019 17:38

We've got a gorgeous 10 day old little girl. Ever since we came home from hospital she has slept in our bed alongside me. Appreciate co-sleeping isn't everyone's cup of tea but it was the only way we could get some sleep. She would not sleep in her next2me cot and got herself so worked up even with us soothing/white noise. Her naps in the day she only wants to sleep on us. If I try and put her in her nest or cot, all hell breaks loose and I really struggle to see her cry when she is so young! So I have just let it be,accepting it is probably normal for a baby of this age! This may be just an age thing and we just need to keep persisting at night with the cot. I was thinking of buying a sleepyhead which we could persist with day and night (in her cot) which will give some continuity of her sleeping spot and make her feel a bit more snuggled. We have tried with a different type of nest but no luck. We swaddle under the arms lightly with a cellular blanket but that hasn't helped and she doesn't like her arms tucked in! In bed at night she sleeps much better alongside me, she likes to be close by but doesn't have to be on me... any tips for helping her sleep in something other than me in the day and sleeping in her cot at night would be hugely appreciated! Any similar experiences would be gratefully received! I understand she may well just grow out of it as she feels more safe and secure and it's not that I don't love the cuddles, I'm just worried about creating a rod for my own back with the co-sleeping in particular! I suspect some of this is new mum worries but I'd love to hear if anyone else had a similar dilemma and how you managed it. Thanks very much in advance!

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userabcname · 24/07/2019 17:44

All very normal newborn behaviour OP! At this stage, please don't worry about rods for your back or creating bad habits...the best thing for baby is to know mum is close and enjoy those cuddles. As long as you are following safe co-sleeping guidelines there's no problem there (fellow co-sleeper here!) and as for naps I'd just do whatever works for now as she's so tiny. Feel free to use a sleepyhead, I know some people swear by them, but don't be disappointed if it doesn't work - sometimes they just need to be close to you! In due course you will find that she settles easier away from you (some babies start doing this quite quickly, others like my DS take a while!) but it's all developmental so you're not doing anything wrong while you wait for that to happen - in fact, you're doing everything right by responding to her needs. Congratulations and enjoy those newborn snuggles!

Anothertempusername · 24/07/2019 17:46

All very normal, OP. Honestly, enjoy it while it lasts. My almost 4 month old doesn't fall asleep on me anymore Sad

MrsB19 · 24/07/2019 19:39

Hi KatnissK

Thank you so much, that's really reassuring to hear! Can I ask how long you co-slept for and how you made that transition (when the time is right!). Its a relief to hear it sounds normal and others have done it too! Thank you!

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