Should I let my children bed share?

[LauraDH]

I have two boys aged and the eldest wants to share a bed with his little brother.
There is only 19 months between them and they are really close, I'm inclined to let them share but don't know if it's a good idea. Or what do bed wise if I let them.
The eldest is 3 in October and the youngest turned 1 in may.
Anyone been in a similar situation? Or have experience of children who share a bed?

Thanks

This would have been the norm for most of human history, I’d let them.

I'd worry neither would sleep properly. Maybe just let them do it on a Friday or Sat night as a treat

I would let them. I know a family with 2 boys a year apart and they have their own rooms but purposefully share one bed together so they’ve ended up being bought a big bed to share. I think it’s sweet that they want to and if it works why the hell not?

As long as they fit comfortably and aren't going to end up pushing each other out. I'd go for bunk beds. As the 'five in a bed and the little one said' song goes, 'single beds are only made for one'.

As long as they both have a bed of their own that they can sleep in if they choose then I don’t see a problem .... as long as they are actually sleeping as the earlier poster says

Sleeping with someone you love is great, and what’s better than sibling love :)

If everyone gets more sleep let it happen. If they annoy each other say no.

My sister and I are a year apart, we shared a cot, a pram and shared a bed throughout our childhood. We had the option of our own beds but preferred to share.

We're both fairly well adjusted adults with healthy relationships.

Mine shared cot and bed, loved being together. Shared a bedroom until they were 16

Most siblings shared until 60 years ago or so. Kids having their own rooms is a modern thing. Let them if they want to and get enough sleep

So long as the bed is big enough and they have the option of a separate space if they want it - why not??!
My kids are 4 years apart and would love to share a bed!

My three kids DD (12), DD (9) and DS (7) all have double beds because they regularly share. It's rare the girls sleep alone. It's not unusual to find all three snuggles up together (and the damn cat)
I'm happy to let them because they're not children for long and I'm loving the fact that they actually get along so well.

Perfectly alright at their ages, they're only little. They'll want their own spaces soon enough.

I’d only be worried that the little one was too small and might not be able to get out from underneath the 3 year old if he’s in s deep sleep but if you don’t think that’s a risk then let them crack on as long they’re actually getting some sleep!

My friend’s G & B slept in the same bed many nights a week until they were both very much older (13 & 11) - despite fighting like cat & dog in the day! And they’d share now if they needed to, no bother. (15 & 13) but don’t actively choose to any more (sadly probably because they know people would think it was weird more than not actually wanting to)

Also another friends B&G choose to share a bed (10 & 7) she started it when the G was first out of her cot and she could settle them both in the one bed & read to them until they fell asleep & they still
Do that now. She still reads to them until they’re asleep (personally think she’s mad but her choice 🤷🏻‍♀️ & I made mine, (I stopped. babysitting them because I couldn’t handle the bedtime routine - they can be read to fir HOURS before sleeping - not on my watch!

Thanks for the replies.
I think my main hesitation comes from worrying if the little one is big enough as @IncrediblySadToo pointed out. I might me being over cautious as there isn't a great difference in size between them, ds2 just above ds1's shoulders. Ds1 has always been small for his age, he is only just got into 2-3 tops and still wearing 1.5 -2 trousers.
I let them share ds2 cot when I was struggling one night as neither would settle and DH was on lates. Ds1 just kept asking and crying for his brother which melted my heart. Their bond is amazing. They both settled great but I couldn't keep my eyes off the monitor knowing they didn't have much space. Before I went to bed myself I moved ds1 to his own bed. Since then it's become a nightly routine let them share and move him.
They both sleep great while they are together, but after I have moved his big brother ds2 has at least a couple of wake ups.

There was a similar age gap between me and my sister, we use to bedshare but not from so young. My dad ended up extending the bottom bunk bed to a double so we could have more room as we both use to end up up in one bed. Then where my youngest sister was old enough to feel she was missing out we would end up with all 3 of us in together so your situation sounds very familiar @ChesterDrawsDoesntExist.

If I do let them, I don't know what to do bed wise. I always planned on moving them into the same room when the youngest didn't need to security of the cot, I just don't know if we are their yet.

My brothers shared a 3/4 bed when they came out of cots. Close in age. There wasn’t room for 3 beds until we all swapped rooms. I believe they slept ok. We had quests once, and I had to get in with them... I did not sleep well though.
Let them do it I say

I used to go into my older 2 in the morning and they would be in bed together.
If I had my time again ide buy bunk buds with a double underneath and then they can share when they want and have a bed each when they want.