How to stop co sleeping

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Please help me before I go insane! So my son has co slept with me since birth, he is ebf so at night he comes in to fall asleep mid feed then my partner moves him into the next to me crib, he will last up to about 3hrs then he will wake up & want back in not necessarily to feed. I can't move him over myself as he likes to use my arm as a pillow so I'm stuck if I move I wake him up, so it's quite unfair to wake my partner up to move him again so he stays in with me for the rest of the night. I'm trying to get him to fall asleep in his cot in his own room, I will sit next to him shush him, sing to him, stroke him I try everything even silence with no joy. I don't know how to get out of this habit! Please someone help me out!

I have a similar issue. My little boy is just over 11 months. He is mainly on cows milk but I do still breast feed a little. I get him to sleep initially by singing to him and rocking him on the rocking chair and he will go down in his cot for around an hour and then wakes up. We manage to get him back to sleep & back down in his cot again but after that he wakes again after an hour (maybe less) and will not go back down. He then sleeps with me but wakes up all through the night. I try to get him back to sleep without feeding him but i mainly have to feed him to get him back to sleep. I have started back at work and am really struggling to manage full time work and no sleep. He has never been a sleeping baby but his sleeping is getting worse. I do not know what to do

Why do you want him in his own cot in his own room?

Maybe you don’t but that’s just the done thing. Maybe you do. Honest question

He's 7months old, guidelines say he should be in his own room at 6months old. I don't mind him sleeping in the next to me crib but I don't want it to continue til he's a toddler so I'm trying to do it early instead of late. It means I'm having to go to bed with him at 7.30pm & I get no time with my partner, luckily he understands.

The guidelines are about how long he should be in with you as a minimum, not about what point you should move him into his own room - it’s all up to you. I don’t actually think it’s unreasonable for you to ask for your partner’s help - presumably you’ve been bearing the brunt of the broken sleep for a while now. But again that is up to you. My son would not sleep on his own for a long time so we coslept and now at 14mo he only comes in with me after 5am, so it doesn’t necessarily follow that your son will share your bed into toddlerhood if that isn’t something you want. Personally I think the transition from falling asleep with you to getting him to fall asleep in his cot is probably too much too soon and a more gradual process might work better - so perhaps first getting him to sleep with you but without using your arm as a pillow, then going from there

No advice but watching with hope that someone comes along with a magic solution. My 9 month old takes over the bed, I'm so uncomfortable, but I just can't get him to stay in his cot past 11pm. Every time we've tried there have been hours of tears and screaming.

I feel like it's frowned upon to co sleep but it's what worked for us. But last night he actually slept in the side crib all night til 6.20am I even woke up in a panic! I'm not expecting it again, just a fluke but I'm genuine I'm asking for advice on how to stop it not quizzing me as to why I want it. I want my bed back, I want my sex life back....is that too much to ask for really!?