3 month old late to bed and late up

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Help with bedtimes and wake up times please!

My little girl is 14 weeks old and is such an amazing little thing but I am starting to worry about her sleeping.

I can’t get her to go to bed before 9:30pm, most nights it’s around 10pm used to be 11 she will then sleep 8/9 hours wake up around 6/7am have a feed and nappy change then back to sleep for a few hours getting up for the day around 10am/11am.

I have been waiting for her to change her routine to go to bed earlier then wake up earlier but it’s not happening and worrying I am going to end up making it harder on myself and her in the future by letting her sleep late and wake up late

The above is Aurora’s routine which I think is why she is so chilled so we haven’t tried to force a routine on her. I have tried to take her up early and put her to bed early but she still won’t sleep till later 🙄

Any advice? Or any mums with older babies been through is?

Thanks
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At 3 months old I don’t think you need to worry about it at all.
Sounds like both of you are doing fine to me :) at 3 months going to bed at 10 and sleeping til 6/7am is very good and in my eyes even better if she has a feed then goes back down. Unless you have a reason to force a change in routine I really wouldn’t bother.
My dd is 6 months and so far I’ve let her set her own routine and gradually bedtime has got earlier most nights. Last night she was in bed by 6.30pm a few nights ago she was up til 10.30pm 🤷🏼‍♀️

I wouldn't interfere. There's no reason for her to be up earlier presumably, so if she's happy and you're happy just go with it. My DD put herself into her own routine really - now at 21 weeks she is ready for bed by 7, but in the first three months she was staying up till 10 too and sleeping till 8/9.

Sounds wonderful to me. I woulldn't worry about her not going to bed early and would be delighted about her sleeping late in the morning.
Mine was the same. We quite liked having him with his in the evening and he was well stimulated. Plus we always had a lie in when we wanted to.

It's best not have rules with babies, let them take the lead.

Some people would sell their granny to have a dc who actually slept at all!!
Sounds like you are doing fab!

Thanks all. Everyone I know with babies the same sleep 7-7 so just thought maybe we should get her sleeping earlier but I am happy with the long stretch of sleep for now. Back to work mid sept so if she is still late to bed in August I will worry more x

My LO is 3.5 months as is about the same.

He goes to bed at about 9-9.30, up for a feed at 5am and then up to start the day at 7.30am.

Then he naps for 40 mins every 90 mins or so.

I'm trying to get him to go longer at lunchtime, looking forward to that 2 hour nap. But it isn't happening yet!

Sounds amazing!! So many parents on my Facebook at the moment knackered with the light mornings as their wee ones are up at 5 for the day! Honestly at that age I’d just be so grateful they were sleeping, mine were probably only managing 2-3 hours tops at a stretch at that age.

Hi OP, my DS is 14 weeks and I could have written your post! I try taking him up to bed earlier but if he ends up nodding off at 19:30 it just becomes a nap. I had started managing to get him to sleep by 9pm but we’ve reverted back to around 10pm now! I’ve been stressing about it because most mums with babies that I know of tend to have theirs down for the night by 7pm but I’ve found this impossible so I just let DS take the lead. He usually wakes 1-2 times in the night, one of these times is usually around 5am but he will then go back to sleep after that sometimes until 9:30am. He doesn’t have much of a pattern with naps either - he usually has one around 90 mins after waking for the day and then another around lunchtime, but afternoon naps seem to change daily, sometimes a couple of short ones, sometimes one long one, sometimes he seems awake all afternoon and others he snoozes all afternoon! It works for me as I don’t have to have a set routine in the day - advice I’ve been given from people is to let baby do their thing and bedtime will probably naturally get earlier as time goes on. If it’s working for you then I wouldn’t worry about it! X

I didn't get into putting DD1 to bed at a proper 'baby bedtime' till she was about 8/9 months. Till then I just took her to bed with us somewhere between 9 and 10. She'd sleep till around 6/7. I honestly think we got such good chunks of sleep because we let her get on with it and did what suited her. As long as everyone is getting enough sleep overall, there's no need to force change. The people I knew with babies of similar age all tended to be dealing with lots more wake-ups and unsettled nights than we did. I think it's pot luck what's happening around you - I always felt lucky in comparison, but as long as you and she aren't overtired I definitely wouldn't worry that everyone else seems to be doing the mythical 7-7.