5 month old refusing to nap in cot waking for hours at noght

[Ifsomeonehadtoldme]

As per title baby refusing to nap for more than forty mins in any mode and has now started waking at night for hours. I’m on my knees and sure two are linked. What do I do? He sleeps may forty mins first off then resettles after some fussing sleeps 4-5 hours up for 2 then back down for 4 hours.

I’m utterly broken now I can’t carry on like this and no amount of this too shall pass is helping to alleviate the effects of so little sleep on my mental health. I was doing sport after toddler in bed but am going to have to stop as I have no energy and it was the only spot of me time and is something I love so is going to make me worse.

Failing that does anyone know a good sleep trainer who will live in and force a routine as I can’t do it no matter what I try.

I’m such a failure as a Mother. My friend can all seem to get some naps to work and I just don’t understand why I can’t. Room is dark white noise is on. Temp only uncontrolled variable but he seems to be going from being an angel to a second sleep nightmare and I can’t take any more.

He’s just used me as a dummy yet again for ages as all he did in cot left alone was sing then start crying. what am doing so wrong? Please I need help.

Oh and I’d rather eat my own feet than cosleep - I don’t need any more closeness.

Have a look at the blissful baby expert, she has a book and social media. Also has a forum for help or you can directly contact her. I am the same never wanted to cosleep as it felt unsafe and I didn't want to end up with a toddler in our bed! But her advice is fab and honestly saved me once when I was going insane with my horrific sleeper.

@Ifsomeonehadtoldme I'm in the same situation. My boy is 20 weeks tomorrow and the longest stretch of sleep he'll do is 2.5hours. I feel utterly broken, and also don't want to co sleep. I've got a sleep consultant coming this evening and after the initial chat I'm got that she's going to do some overnights. Wish I had advice but all I have is sympathy and solidarity x

Almost 10 hours a night with 2 wake ups? Sounds pretty good for that age to me.

Being able to do 'sport' with a 5 month old sounds pretty ambitious too.

Just something about the tone of the post makes me sense there's a bit of resentment here - wanting to eat your own feet etc.

I found out from my own experience that the sooner you accept that sleep is going to be shit, possibly for a few years and that the majority of what you did before will also probably have to go on hold too, the easier life becomes!

You pick it all back up the other side. It gets easier I promise!