Afraid to make any noise

[PurpleThistles]

My baby is 5 days old and although I have had 4 more dc, there is a 9 year gap between my newborn and my second youngest.

I followed the contented baby routines with my first 4 dc, but times have changed and now its recommended baby should be in the same room for all sleeps etc. So i am trying to go with the flow and have found that every night my dh and I sit in almost total silence on our phones, too worried we will wake the baby up. Its making me miserable and so I have put the tv on and baby almost immediately woke up.

I just want to relax and I dont understand why i am getting so uptight at the baby waking up. How do I relax about his sleep?

Let him get used to the noise and have it on when you are feeding him to sleep. My baby seemed to sleep better in the dark with the tv on but a low level. Just try get him used to other sounds, he's only used to the fluid you had in your tummy

We were just like you with our first. Its only recently we have stopped it. We would sit there with everything switched off. Husband would tell me off even if i was to make a bit of noise opening or closing the bathroom.door! But we got fed up, and have gotten our son used to low level noise. We talk quietly.. we go in and out the room and he has become used to it. Still gets startled by sudden noises which is normal

My baby slept through anything for the first few weeks so make the most of this time!

Your baby is only 5 days old, I wouldn't worry about waking them. Put the TV on and just cuddle the baby, they will get used to background noise.

Yes, it only happened once though? You can't really decide that your baby needs total silence because he/she woke up once. We had the TV, radio on, hoovering, dog barking since DD came home. I'm sure it did wake her a couple of times but most of the time she just slept. Life has to go on!

Also no way would I be putting a five day old baby to sleep in another room

Thanks for the advice, i have got over not making noise and now at 9 days old, my little boy sleeps through the tv, my older kids noise, dog barking, kitten playing with bell toys and so forth. I discovered he loves the lullaby on his sound player which goes off if he cries and he self settles when he hears it, no matter the other noises around him.

What a brilliant result. I had one who would only sleep with the vacuum on. Wore a hole in the carpet outside his bedroom. He moans about his kids not sleeping now, revenge is sweet and I just smile and sympathise.