Im at my wits end I just don’t know what to do for the best anymore.
My 2.5yo started sleep training to go into a ‘big girl bed’ in a room shared with her brother. The first week went really well I was so proud of her but all of a sudden she’s decided actually she doesn’t want to go to bed and now throws full on tantrums screaming at me and arching her back wont go in and for example got up continually from 8.30-10.45 last night. Each time I took her back said goodnight and left, free the first three or four times I didn’t say anything just calmly picked her up took her back and left. So as not to drip feed our youngest was born when she was 18m and she has co slept with her dad since. This was because I co slept with the baby in a separate room.
We have sporadically tried to get the baby to sleep in the cot as we wanted to share a bed together again and just get some proper sleep without playing musical beds. However one or both of them would kick up and through fear of waking the other child we kept going back to separate sleeping arrangements each cosleeping with a child.
Yes I know what you’re going to say. It’s an issue of our making but please be gentle and understand we just wanted to get some sleep.
(For more reference our eldest child was a terrible sleeper and only slept in his own room without us from about 4)
Now the baby... just won’t entertain sleeping anywhere for a nap except on me or his dad and at night will only co sleep.
The last few days I’ve been trying to settle him down into his cot for his daytime nap but he screams and cries and I hate it so much I can’t bare to put him through it I don’t know what to do.
For reference the older two never had trouble with the day time naps just night time sleeps so this is unchartered territory. All my mum friends have kids who just sleep nicely and I feel like a complete failure I’m exhausted and suffer from constant headaches and if you’ve made it through all this thank you for reading 