Co sleeper...feeling sad!

[MissMoodyMoo]

We practice attachment parenting and I crave the closeness to my baby as much as she does me! She's just turned 4 months old and no longer wants to sleep in bed cuddling and I feel sooo sad about it! She's still next to me in a next to me crib but I still feel so sad about the fact she might not want or need me 😭😭 I 100% know I'm probably being hormonal and ridiculous but I can't shake feeling upset

Attachment parenting isn't about having your child attached to you at all times - it should have about being close to your child emotionally and responding to their needs.

Plus at 4 months things are still so changeable, enjoy having the bed to yourself till the next bout of teething/illness/growth spurt

I suspect you’re feeling a bit hormonal. It’s quite likely it’s just a phase, and if it’s not, it doesn’t show that your DC doesn’t want you there, just that it’s more comfortable not to be cuddled sometimes! It could just be because of the hot weather, maybe she’s too warm if cuddled.

4 months is tiny. Her sleep will change many times over the next few years.

My DD refused to co-sleep after a year even now at nearly 3! But what she does do is come and give me random bear hugs throughout the day and squeeze my head so tight, she also puts my arm round her on the sofa when she is chilling ! Some people just like their space in bed 😏 x

I wouldn’t bank on it lasting unless that’s what you want. For the first 14 weeks the only way dd would sleep was literally laid on me,then she settled next to me in bed and liked her own space. Now at 7 months we’re back to having to sleep cuddled up or with her on me even if it’s just holding on to my arm tightly or with her feet against me!

I know how you feel OP! They grow too quickly. It is hormones and a Mother’s love. I think this is how life will feel as a mother from now on - a series of changes that will see our precious babies grow up and need us less. But I try to reframe it and see it as my baby is thriving and growing, and that this is what they need now, and will need us in other ways. X

Those little moments where your baby reaches a new milestone are bittersweet aren't they

Try to think this means she feels comfortable independently sleeping , a huge success on your behalf. By the time you've just gotten over it she will change again.

My 16 month will now only sleep with his body wrapped about my head , so enjoy it whilst you can

My 15mo likes to sleep on my head too. I love snuggling him but am currently trying to sleep separate for my sanity 😂 he also grabs my nipples and scratches my armpits. I don't do much sleeping