Very light sleeping 6 month old won't sleep more than 45 minutes overnight

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Not sure why anyone comes to the sleep discussion thread unless they're having problems getting their baby to sleep themselves... right?

So instead of asking for advice I'll just share:

Baby goes down to sleep fine most of the time, mostly because I feed her to sleep. Sometimes not though. Then it's a slog of controlled or uncontrolled crying until she's quiet or I crack and feed her again.

Once asleep she generally wakes hourly. All. Night. Long. Every now and then she'll sleep a couple of hours in the evening. But most of the time it's wake ups all the time.

Tried: taking her off boob and putting down drowsy not asleep, rocking to sleep, blackout blinds, sleepyhead, dream sheep, white noise, puflo nest, help of reluctant partner, calming environment before bedtime, dummy (won't take it), Gina Ford, Elizabeth Pantley, baby whisperer.

Still here we are at 6 months waking every 45-60 minutes.

She's stuck in our room as she doesn't have her own. Partner on sofa.

Past midnight I am too tired to rock her back to sleep and end up feeding cosleeping in painful positions. She refuses to go back to sleep at all past 4-5 am. Partner thank god generally takes her away 5-6am.

Has she always been this way? Have you tried cot in sitting room, partner back in bed with you – perhaps the room share is disturbing her?

It sounds horrific though. Why is your partner reluctant to help?

No advice, just having the same issue. Had enough of bedsharing, everything hurts.

I was in this situation not that long ago. So sorry to hear you're going through it too - it was terrible. It sounds like you've tried everything, but thought I'd just say what worked for us, just in case anything helps! 1. Never feed to sleep 2. Make sure she falls asleep on her own in the dark, at bedtime and every time she wakes. 3. Partner might need to do nights for a while, if not to solve the problem then to give you a break. Essentially, this means a lot of controlled crying - we've done it 3 times, as things tend to slide if she's been sick/teething. I'm sure that's not helpful, but for what it's worth, my baby is 14 months old now and things are much better. Not perfect, which is why I'm on the sleep thread but she hasn't woken more than 2-3x a night in months, usually gets herself back to sleep after a grumble, and will sleep through maybe once a week. It will get better but meanwhile, can your partner take over for a few nights every week or so? That made a big difference for me.

I’m afraid my daughter was the same until about 12 months then she started sleeping 3 hour stretches for about a year. She’s 2.5 now and wakes once or twice. I think some little ones are just not as good at sleeping as others 🤣😭

My son was the same he's just turned one and now is up probably every 3 hours which isn't perfect but amazing to when it was every 45 minutes. At the worst I just put him in bed with us, he still woke up all the time but I didn't have to get out of bed. Now he's in his own room and up about 4 times. Waiting for the day he does 7 till 7 without waking me up!