28 months old toddler still not sleeping through night

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Hi All
I am a mother of 28 month old toddler who s not sleeping thru night ... since the day she was born I slept countable night.. it’s really frustrating... I hate my own baby n shout at her like mad... if I tell her soft n make her understand she s not listening awaking more often... even if she wakes I m fine but she cries a lot

I co sleep with her I m just next right to her ... we maintain good temperature at home... she got all her teeth ... she eat dinner an hour before going to bed.. she never slept alone she always wanted me beside her... I don’t even find time to relax myself... i m still crying becoz of sleep pattern... I was hoping it ll b fine when she turn 2 but still dying for sleep n my time ... I lost all my hope that she ll sleep fine...

Falling asleep is not problem for her... she takes around 20 mins n sleep but getting up 4 to 5 times crying...

Her schedule
Wake up 8 am
Bf 9 am
Snack 11 am
Lunch 1 pm
Nap 1:30 pm
Wake up 3 to 4 pm
Snack 5 pm
Dinner 8 pm
Bedtime 9 pm
Ll sleep around 9:30
Daily I m getting her for play date to make her tired... sometimes I think she ll b overtired that’s y dint sleep... some days she ll at home in evening even then she ll wake

I m writing this with lot of tears in my eyes... I know many people out there are not lucky to have baby... I got one but how long this sleepless night ... I don’t wish to get second baby becoz of seeing her sleep pattern

Plz help any suggestions appreciated... plz don’t give any harsh comments becoz I couldn’t take it... I m very weak now

OP isnt breastfeeding

I agree with what mavericksnoopy said. And just to add, you'll need to stick at the new routine for a good 2 weeks. Be consistent. Don't just try out for a few nights then write it off.

There is a reason most (i emphasis most) toddlers sleep at 7/8 pm and sleep through.

Nonsense 🤣

Some babies are night owls. My daughter goes to sleep between 8-9pm (she is 2.5) and would sleep until 9am if she could (gets up at 8 for childminder.

I couldn’t bare her getting up before 7 as I’m a night owl too, she takes after me.

Op I completely sympathise with you 💕

Some things that help me:

• cook and eat with your daughter and your husband can reheat. That way while he is having his dinner you can start the wind down process
• warm bath, with you in it might help. My daughter seems to enjoy the connection before bedtime

See if these help 🙂 good luck xx

randomncftw but your child is sleeping for 12 hours, you choose a late bedtime which is good
If that works for you. I personally would rather have an evening to myself/ with my DH, plus I’m conscious that come school time a bedtime of 8/9pm won’t work if she has to be up by 8am

Maybe you could look for some parenting classes? Hating her and shouting at her at 2yo is not right. You need help from someone trained to better manage how you react and interact with her.

I completely empathise with you, OP. Toddler sleep can be very, very difficult. I cosleep and have a toddler who can't sleep alone. My husband and I don't see each other after 7pm, and I absolutely refuse to do any sort of crying it out. I just try and remind myself that it's not permanent, she will not need me forever.

I will also say that The Beyond Sleep Training Project on Facebook is wonderful. It's a support group for parents with babies who want to respond to sleep 'issues' in a developmentally appopriate way (i.e. no leave baby to cry or scream alone).

I am no expert but could your DD be ready to drop her nap? It will be hell for a month but apparently (disclaimer I'm not at this stage yet) it may help the sleeping. Sarah Ockwell-Smith has some free articles and advice on how to drop a nap. It's all very gentle too, again no leaving baby or toddler to cry or scream.

My DD didn’t sleep through until she started school. Sometimes it’s about excepting and going with the flow. Losing your temper won’t help the situation at all