Resettling on waking

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DD 1yo usually wakes crying after 40 mins. (Further into the night can sleep longer). I've always picked her up and she falls back asleep usually quickly. I've been trying lately to encourage her to settle in the cot. I've tried staying out of the room to see what happens, I've tried patting/shushing/reassuring her next to her cot. But she gets hysterical presumably because she's got so used to me holding her.
So that's what I end up doing.
Is there a gentle way of helping her to self settle?

Have you tried going in at 35 mins and shush, pat then to support the transition? If that works then gradually do less and less until you don't need to.

Thank you so much. It sounds so obvious now that you've mentioned it but I haven't actually thought of doing this🤦‍♀️
I guess because I worry I'll wake her when I go in (and I always hold onto the hope that she might just continue herself!).
Will try. Thank you.

That's what this space is for.. How did it go??

Go in after 5 mins crying, lay her back down, say "night night" and ldave. Repeat after 5 mins, and every 5 mins. Should take 2-3 evenings of 20-40 min crying to work.

Thank you!
I've been trying the Lucy Wolfe technique to get her to sleep in the first place and this I think is helping her learn to settle herself on wakings.
When I came in the room at the 30-35 min mark she'd just wake up , presumably because she was light sleeping at this stage? And then got very upset because I wasn't picking her up (gave in eventually!). So that didn't really work.
Interestingly a couple of times in the last few days I've tried not going in the moment she wakes, to see if she calms herself down and she has! This has only happened twice but it's a step forward! Things are definitely slowly improving and I can't quite believe it.
I take it down to focussing on how she goes off to sleep in the first place.

Great news!