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Moving into their own room

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Echomama · 25/05/2019 22:03

So my 2.5yo was easy as pie and we moved her into her own room at 4 weeks old.
Not a problem and she slept better in there. She used to wake a lot and cried as soon as she woke for a feed so I always knew when I was needed.
My second however, doesn't make a darn noise!
Shes unpredictable with her waking (sometimes 3 times a night sometimes one) and doesn't cry for a feed ever. It's only because I'm such a light sleeper and I can hear her tossing her head and smacking her lips that I know she's woken.
Not even the movement/noise sensor on her monitor picks it up.

So my question is, what advice do mums of quiet babies have for moving her into her cot?
She's starting to get a real routine and familiarity of where she sleeps and I don't want the extra battle of getting her used to a different room and bed!

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dementedpixie · 25/05/2019 22:04

What age? I didn't move until after 6 months due to SIDs risks so mine were with us until around 8 months

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Echomama · 25/05/2019 22:17

3 months
If sids is going to happen I don't think it really matters what room she's in

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Samind · 25/05/2019 22:18

Following!

HelpAFattieOutHere · 25/05/2019 22:21

3 months
If sids is going to happen I don't think it really matters what room she's in

This is incorrect. Latest thinking is that it's being in with you that regulates their breathing and stops them from falling into too deep a sleep.

Summerorjustmaybe · 25/05/2019 22:25

Your theory has been disproved by experts....
In with you for 6 months minimum...

SpeedyBojangles · 25/05/2019 22:31

Keep her in with you until 6 months at least

Ginger1982 · 25/05/2019 22:40

I think 4 weeks is too early but that ship has obviously sailed. 6 months is the guideline. Maybe keep her in with you a bit longer.

dementedpixie · 25/05/2019 23:03

If sids is going to happen I don't think it really matters what room she's in

Research has shown that SIDS risk is reduced by sleeping in the same room so what you've written is rubbish

peachgreen · 25/05/2019 23:19

If she's not crying does she definitely need something? My daughter often woke at that age and just shuffled around a wee bit before going back to sleep.

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Echomama · 26/05/2019 20:25

Ok great about sids but she's not staying in my room for another 3 months.
4 weeks was right for my dc1 and was the best thing we did for her sleep wise
dc2 does need the feed when she wakes and makes little noise. It's the same as during the day, she's just a very quiet baby
any actual tips for quiet babies in different rooms?

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peachgreen · 26/05/2019 22:14

How do you know she needs the feed? No way would I be doing a night feed unless my DD was hungry enough to actually cry for it. I'm not saying I would leave it until she was screaming but if she's so quiet you can't here her, I don't see that she's really needing anything?

Ginger1982 · 26/05/2019 22:23

Why can't she stay in your room for another three months? Surely if you're concerned about hearing her it would be better to have her closer to you?

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Echomama · 27/05/2019 16:48

Again, any actual tips?

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dementedpixie · 27/05/2019 16:58

Nope. What sort of tips do you mean? If you can barely hear her in your room then you won't hear her at all if you move her so you won't know if she needs you or not.

DameSylvieKrin · 27/05/2019 20:07

A tip for a quiet baby aged less than 6 months in its own room: it’s more likely to die of SIDS than if it shares with you.
I think the commenters here can’t fathom why this is not your priority, so you’re not getting the answers you want.

Ginger1982 · 27/05/2019 20:14

Baby monitor?

HelpAFattieOutHere · 27/05/2019 20:26

The mind boggles...

Echomama · 27/05/2019 21:57

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dementedpixie · 27/05/2019 22:00

Ha ha ha. I just don't know why you would want to move her just yet when evidence points towards it being safer for her to stay in your room for a few more months. Do what you want (you're going to anyway whatever anyone says)

Snowoctopus · 27/05/2019 22:05

Your baby should be with you at night time for the first 6 months, more recent research actually recommends that they stay with you for 12 months.
It’s about what is best and safest for your baby, not what is most convenient for you!
Having your baby close for all sleeps means that they can hear your breathing and therefore regulate their own breathing, which in turn lowers the risk of SIDS.
Please, please do some research and reconsider your decision to put your baby in a room alone at a young ago.

Snowoctopus · 27/05/2019 22:06

Oops:
*age

TheBabyAteMyBrain · 27/05/2019 22:11

If the baby doesn't disturb you, and you don't disturb the baby, why the rush to move her to her own room? Especially as everyone else has pointed out, it's safer to have her in with you.

margana · 27/05/2019 22:11

OP you asked for tips to move, but the guidelines say NOT to move in the first place and you're accepting a risk to your baby by moving her.

However, I do hear you and sometimes following this guideline is simply not possible: one of my DC outgrew the bassinet and in our flat the bedrooms are too tiny to put a cot in with a double bed. So DC went into own bed and bedroom long before 6months. The flat is small, so I could still hear DC without a monitor if he cried, but not his other noises that kept me otherwise awake when he was next to me in the bassinet. The only tip I would give is to increase the day feeds so that you're confident she doesn't need a feed at night. In theory (and in my very limited experience), she may not actually need a night feed at 3 months if she's gaining weight well and there are no health issues.

Also, make sure you follow all other SiDS prevention advice (no cot bumpers, no unsecured bedding/toys in cot, put her on her back to sleep, have a way of controlling room temp so that she's not too hot/not too cold, etc).

If she's truly hungry you'll hear her, provided the bedrooms are close together or have a monitor.

Lucylou321 · 27/05/2019 22:21

Surely the obvious thing if you're worried about not hearing her in her own room would be to keep her in yours?! I don't get the rush to get her out of your room if she's that quiet and clearly doesn't disturb you. My DD snores farts and whinges all night long and I'd still rather that than put her at risk by not having her next to me before she's 6 months. It's not a criticism I just don't really understand the logic if you are worried enough to be asking for tips on how to hear her. It's such a short amount of time in the grand scheme of things.

Mississippilessly · 28/05/2019 10:10

What a hideously insensitive thing to joke about.

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