How much sleep is too much at 14weeks?

[Mousey88]

I'm a first time mom, and at risk of upsetting some of the sleep deprived people on here I would like some advice on home much sleep is normal for a 14 week old baby. My little girl is formula fed, (for a variety of health reasons so please no breast is best comments) and has been sleeping through the night since 7 weeks.
My MIL is concerned she is sleeping TOO much. Her current routine is she goes to sleep after her last bottle, between 8-9pm and then sleeps through till approximately 7-8am. She then has a little play, tummy time and morning bottle before going back to sleep. This first nap is 2.5-3hours and then she is awake for the majority of the afternoon unless we go out and she falls asleep in her pram or the car. These are often very short periods of sleep, at most 30-45minutes. She then has a 1-1.5hour nap between 5-6.30pm and then up for a little play with daddy when he gets home, bottle then bed.
It has taken a lot of long hard work to get her into this routine, so feeling like MIL is just trying to pick fault.
Or am I truly in the wrong for letting her sleep so much?
My own mom said it's ok as long as she's alert when she is awake and she's always alert and moving when awake, either tummy time, playing with toys or splashing in the tub.

Very confused xxx

I don't think that sounds too much. I can't quite remember DD's routine at that exact age but certainly when she was a bit older that sounds like what she was still getting, more or less. She'd get about 11 hours at night, then at least two naps during the day totally at least 3 hours between them. Sometimes more. We had to push her morning nap because otherwise she'd then have her second nap during the school run so at one point she was sleeping from about 10:30 - 14:30 every day, waking up just in time to dash out out the door. Then back to bed before 7.

Some children need more sleep. And some children are also better at sleep. It will change and adapt so you should go with it. At this age certainly I wouldn't expect her to be able to stay awake for more than 90-120 minutes at a time anyway. At most.

Oh, and DD is four now and has no naps but can easily sleep 12.5 hours a night still if we get her into bed on time. Occasionally will sleep 13 even. DS has never done that. Ever. (except once when he was sick and DH and I spent the entire time debating whether we should take him to doctor or A&E....!)

Sounds fine to me!
My now 17 week old has only started waking up a little bit she can still only manage to stay awake up to 1.5 hours before getting cranky. She has a good stint at night too. Enjoy it!

Thanks for the feedback.
When she is awake she can go a good 2-3hours without whinging which makes me think shes getting the sleep she needs.
MIL insists on waking her up when she comes round during the day despite me asking not to. Which just leads to her being cranky and then I get 1001 questions as to what I am doing that makes her an uncontent baby.
Good to know other babies sleep like this. Fingers crossed the 4month sleep regression doesn't undo all the good work.

Don't wake her up on your MILs say so. You'll start to know before long when she's going to be napping so you can plan around them.

This is of the NHS website x

Never wake a sleeping baby!! Enjoy the rest,
OP.

We've had the exact same! I was worried about how much he slept throughout the night as everyone I had spoke to said that the got up various times during the night for feeds, but also didn't want to wake him up for a feed as it would disturb him.

I wouldn't let your MIL tell you what's normal for your own baby, as you know her better than anyone. She's got to understand that every baby is different and some do sleep more than others!