14 month old just wont sleep!

[Sincity1993]

Hi, my DD is 14 months corrected age as she was born at 30 weeks gestation.
She's a happy healthy baby, she has no health issues that I'm aware of but she did develop NEC when she was prem but recovered quickly and has no ongoing issues.
She had never been a good sleeper and she's never slept through the night despite trying sleep training, different bedtimes, different diet just so many methods but none has made a difference. My concerns are that she's not getting enough sleep for her development and growth, she wakes up between 6-7 every morning and goes down for a nap between 11-30 - 12-30 and we aim for a sleep to be maximum 2 hours but this is difficult as where she isn't getting the sleep overnight she try's to catch up during the day and when I wake her she spends the rest of the day grizzly, tired and miserable. I aim for bedtime to be about 7 after dinner at 5 and bath at 6 then an hour of playtime and settling down but despite being tired we have screaming and tears until finally she gives in at 8:30 - 9 sometimes 9:30 ! I just feel so exhausted as I hate bedtime being such an upsetting nightmare every night and even after she's asleep she's up every 2 hours screaming.
Anyway hope that all makes sense, any advice would be appreciated!

Hi, that sounds tough. My dd at 16m is doing a lot better sleep wise than a few months ago, so hopefully it'll change for you soon. She still has 2 naps even now. Might be worth giving your dd a nap in morning around 9/9 30 for an hour and another in the afternoon for longer? Maybe overtired by bedtime?

Personally i would see how it goes letting her sleep as long as she needs to during the first nap for a few days. It may well help improve her overall mood which may make bedtime less of a fight as she isn't so overtired. Its hard though. I have a 14month old who still wakes during the night but i let him catch up in the day.

Hi OP my DS is just a little younger than your DD. We have a similar schedule the only differences are that we put him to bed around 5.30pm (he wakes around 6/7am), morning nap is around 9.30-10.30, afternoon nap around 13/14 for an 1 1/2hrs. We give him dinner around 4/430 and bath at 5. If we're running late and he goes past 6pm then he gets overtired and often won't go to sleep until 8pm +.
Perhaps you could try a slightly earlier bedtime?

Also OP apologies I just realised that your DD is only having one daytime nap is that right? Has she been on that for long? The 2 to 1 nap transition is supposed to be from 15-18 months. If she's transitioning earlier then would suggest you let her sleep as much as she needs to in the day

My vote goes for overtired. 14 months is reasonably early for a one nap day, especially if the baby isn't a good sleeper.

At that age we did an hour at about 9.30, and then about 2 hours from 2pmish.

All babies are different obviously, but if I was a betting woman.... that's where my money is.