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Daytime naps-1yr old

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mummynumnum · 19/07/2007 13:35

Does anyone else still having diffculty getting 1yr old to nap in the day? Nursery can do it easily, but I always struggle! Come to think of it, she still does not sleep all the way through. Has never bothered me as she is quite easy to settle, but should she be sleeping through at this age. not keen on cc, but have teaching hols coming up and maybe it is time!!

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mummynumnum · 19/07/2007 13:46

Having said that, I have just won the battle!!! I live in hope

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meandmy · 19/07/2007 13:49

ask nursery to show you the technique they used we used to pat rock stroke faces etc!
well done

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mummynumnum · 19/07/2007 13:55

Good idea. Always feel like they will see me as useless but suppose they have done it millions of times and this is my first go at it.

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Marne · 19/07/2007 13:58

Dd2 (15 months) has a nap 11am-12 each day, lately she has started to fight it and somedays (when dh is looking after her) she does'nt have a nap resaulting in a bad night for me

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mummynumnum · 19/07/2007 13:59

We have never been good at daytime napping in the cot, but was quite easy today for some reason adn did not resort to a walk in the pram.

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amidaiwish · 19/07/2007 14:51

i had this problem with DD1
i gave up trying to put her down in her cot as it was just becoming more and more of a battle.
i bought a giant floor cushion, put a quiet DVD on (like baby einstein or if you have SKY there is the baby channel with soft music, shapes etc.) and lay her down. that worked pretty well. Or a soft classical music CD - something to change the tempo and relax the atmosphere.

in fact DD2, who was always fine at going down in the day is now 20m and is starting to resist. but is asleep on the floor cushion!

the nursery showed me how they stroke one eyebrow to send them to sleep and it is quite amazing.

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mummynumnum · 19/07/2007 20:38

I could give this a go. SWhe certainly does not like to miss out, so may sleep better on the cushiion near us.

What do people think about the not sleeping through at night issue?

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amidaiwish · 19/07/2007 22:24

well my 19m old still doesn't sleep through and has always up til now been a good daytime sleeper.

DD1 (3.5) slept through from a young age (3 or 4 months i think) and was always terrible to get down in the day... me pushing the buggy in the rain 8 months pg kind of thing!

my point is, not sure they are linked.
if you find the answer to the sleeping through thing then let me know! DD2 seems genuinely thirsty. she wakes for a drink and straight back to sleep. not attention, just habit i guess.

puffling · 19/07/2007 22:27

Marne, when does your dd wake in the morning? If it's 7/7.30, it may be that you're putting her down for her nap too early and that's why she's fighting it. She might prefer to be put down at 12ish.

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mummynumnum · 20/07/2007 13:44

She gets up at 6ish. 7 would be nice!!! Nursery put her down about 10am, so i try then, if not a bit before when at home. Yesterday, it worked, so amybe it is the start of something.

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Gemy · 21/07/2007 21:08

Does your daughter cry when you're trying to put her down? I know my DD does not sleep for her short naps but that doesn't bother her, so doesn't bother me. She just plays in her cot!

She first slept through at 12 weeks, and then consistently from about 6 months (though it was only after 9 months that she was guarenteed to put herself back to sleep without any intervention from us) she is now 15 months. Because of her being happy on her own in her cot during the day, I'm sure she does wake in the evening but is content to be there, and so settles herself back to sleep (I put her to down at 7pm sharp and awake - just tuck her in, kiss her tell her I love her and then walk out, pulling the door to). If your daughter doesn't actually sleep, but learns to be happy to be there, then this may help you with the sleeping through the night issue.

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mummynumnum · 21/07/2007 21:29

DD goes down very well. Story, Milk, cuddle till sleepy and then in cot and goes to sleep. It is the waking in the night bit that is difficult, as she needs me to settle her.

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Gemy · 21/07/2007 21:48

Well the "cuddle til sleepy" part could be the problem. Perhaps she needs that cuddling to get her in the mood for going back to sleep? DS has her milk after bath (SMA progress, if that makes any difference - 260mls) and then it's story and then I carry her into her bedroom whilst singing a bedtime song to her and it's straight in the cot. She really is fully awake when I put her down, and - some of the positions she is in when we check on her at 9.30 - she wonders around her cot for a while before deciding to drop off to sleep.

It's hard to me to say "remove the cuddles" though, because every child is different. I am one of those "routine" mums who was not willing to put up with any night waking that could be avoided thus there is virtually no cuddling when it comes to putting DS down for daytime naps or at night-time (others may think this is cruel but it worked for me)

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mummynumnum · 21/07/2007 22:12

No I think you are prob right and think will have to do it wide awake so she learns to self-settle. Had rubbish night last night and thought right thats it, but then she woke up this morning witha perforated ear drum, so felt v guilty. Am off on school hols soon, so when she is better I will get tough!

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Gemy · 22/07/2007 08:52

You could try at first (in the day) leaving her in her cot on her own for just a few mins whilst you are putting ironng away etc. And if she wants you, just shout that you are there but don't go in. Because she's a year old, I think she'll gather what you're wanting her to do quite soon. As soon as she's happy just crawing around, without you being there, then you could pop her down awake before her lunchtime nap. With no distractions she will wind herself down for sleep and then sleep.

What we did too that might be handy for you is to rig up a webcam so you can see her the whole time until she goes to sleep. Also, if she does cry out, you can see if she's distressed (in which case go into her room), or just having a "no tears" cry to see if she can get you up there! (in which case don't respond at all)

Good luck!

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mummynumnum · 22/07/2007 14:28

Thats a great idea. I have stuck to her nursery nap times today and she has had a nap this morn and is having one now. She was a pickle but diff to know whether she is a pickle or whether it is her ear. DH and I have decided that once I am on school hold and regained my energy, we will do the controlled crying at night, but think will try and sort the daytime naps before then as it has been ok this wkd. Thanks for advice.

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Gemy · 22/07/2007 15:56

Well hope it all works out - I am not a fan on controlled crying though [where your baby is actually crying]. Knowing your baby is just trying to get attention by making a noise is one thing, but hopefully once the daytime naps are sorted and she settles herself, you won't need to resort to it.

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mummynumnum · 22/07/2007 16:37

I hope so to. I find it hard to even think about

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nct73 · 09/02/2008 18:17

Both naptime & at night I can pop DD (14months)into her cot and she will happily sit, play, lie down, stand up, sing & talk to herself but cant settle to sleep. She is obviously tired & wants to go to sleep but doesnt seem to be able settle into sleep mode. She gets into a panic as sooo tired & starts screaming. She asks to be picked up but doesnt want to be held or rocked. At night a bit of rocking whilst she kicks & screams and some singing seems to get her ready to lie down. Once into sleep mode can be put down and she will go to sleep. She doesnt want or need to go to sleep on us. Daytime I often have to resort to rocking in buggy or quick trip round park. Once asleep in buggy (usually takes about5-10 mins), I can transfer to her cot for the rest of her nap for 1-2 hours. Once she has been asleep if she wakes, she can settle herself back to sleep no problem without us unless ill in some way. How do we help her to learn to wind down herself in her cot?

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