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Toddler bed = night wakings

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boodles101 · 15/05/2019 17:58

Recently changed my DS cot into a bed as he figured out how to climb out. He is 2y 3m. He now wont settle for nap or bedtime without me being there and is waking several times at night. I have tried doing CC (which I did when he was younger) and this is too stressful now as he gets pretty hysterical. So I took a gradual approach and have been slowly moving away while he goes to bed. I've managed to make it to the top of the stairs, where he can still see me but I'm not in his room.
But the night wakes are getting me down. I'm currently 23 weeks pregnant with twins and feeling the pressure to get it sorted asap so I can get my rest. DH is not really helping, his solution is to take DS into the spare room and cosleep to allow me to sleep. He doesn't see this being a problem but it is as the spare room will very soon have twins sleeping in there. I also won't have the time to sit outside DS room waiting for him to sleep when I have 2 newborns to tend to!
I did have some success last week, weds & Thurs night I sat with DS til he resettled overnight and then Friday & sat he did sleep through the night. But Sunday was straight back to waking again. He's a clever boy and I've explained bedtime, he needs to stay in bed and go to sleep etc which he understands. He was so proud of himself when he slept through and I have him loads of praise but I just don't know what to do next. Any advice please? Feel like my DH is not being supportive at all, I'm doing it on my own or he sets us back 3 steps by cosleeping. Sorry for long rant, I'm just exhausted and emotional, struggling to see a better way.

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randomncftw · 15/05/2019 20:52

Why don’t you stay with him till he falls asleep?

tumtitum · 15/05/2019 20:58

Won't your twins be in same room as you to begin with? So you could sleep with them and DH with your toddler if needed. You'll probably find he'll regress again after the twins are born. After we had our second DD my DH ended up co-sleeping in the spare room a lot with our eldest. It still happens now but not every night.

caffeinebuzz · 15/05/2019 21:09

No advice, but just a little solidarity. We moved DD, who had been sleeping through since 9 months, into her toddler bed at the start of April and been dealing with this ever since.

Have gotten to the same stage as you going to sleep, where I'm as far away as possible with her still able to see me. But the night wakings are horrendous. Currently muddling through as best we can but it's tough. Can't imagine having to juggle it with being pregnant. Thanks

HoustonBess · 15/05/2019 21:24

Would a bed rail help, to make it a hybrid between cot and bed? Maybe it seems too unfamiliar to him.

moreismore · 15/05/2019 21:45

I agree you need to prepare for a regression when the twins arrive and think how you might manage that.

I had some success at bedtime with ‘pottering’ audibly while DS fell asleep. Putting laundry away, wiping bathroom etc. It was enough to reassure him I was around while he fell asleep.

boodles101 · 16/05/2019 09:45

He does have a bedrail to stop him from falling out, he literally snuggles right into it.
And I am currently staying with him while he falls asleep, during the night too, which can take anywhere from 10mins to an hour.
Twins will be in with me to start with but I do have limited space in my bedroom.
I was wondering if maybe he is regressing a bit now as he is very aware of the babies.

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