Night weaning a chatty baby.How?

[SnowWhite26]

My 8 month old shares a room with older sibling and ever since 6 months when they went in together he has woken up most nights chatting loudly. I have gone in straight away as I have been worried about 3 yr old waking. He eats and drinks well and can self settle but is now in habit of having millk but sometimes the milk doesn't send bk to sleep sometimes he chats for ages. I can ignore it as im worried it will wake 3 yr old. I have reducedmilk right down to an oz and tried leaving him and water and he just chats and chats with being totally ignored as such. I no its not crying buti am losing my mind with tiredness as asake for hours some nights. Any ideas for night weaning. I suffee really badly from pmt so get so find it so tricky around that time. Please help. Any ideas? Why has reducing milk not helped?. :( Thankyou

DD was a chatterbox at that age but she never failed to put herself back to sleep. I’d personally try to find a way to ignore it, especially as the milk doesn’t seem to be helping. Are you sure the 3YO will be disturbed? Toddlers are often extremely deep sleepers. Failing that, put the baby back in with you until this phase passes and take turns wearing earplugs with your DP so only one if who has to listen to see if it escalates into actual crying.

Thanks for replying. No she never really wakes up. I just get so wound up especially at this hormonal time pf the month. Its a long phase 2 months lol Hpw long did it last with u?

So tonight he decided to start chatting at 12.30 i left him till 1 then he got a bit grizzly so gave him a couple ozs and hes still chatting 20 mins later.I. Exhausted and so fed up with this night after night. If i ignore though he just doesn't shut up if i feed a little he does eventually go bk. I dunno what to do as this is a terrible habit. He has swollen gums amd a cold atm so might be that but hes like this anyway!

It lasted about 6 months for us (sorry!). Relatives slept in the room next to DD on holiday when she was 13 months and she kept them awake all night through the wall as she was that loud. It sounds exhausting and I feel your pain but I have no advice as she was never unhappy or unsettled- it really is the strangest habit isn’t it?

Did you never go in and feed? I left him last night but he just got upset. I fed him a small.amount that used to settle him but didnt last night. I think ifhe had 4oz he may go bk to sleep but i duno. I end up questioning myself. If i keep going in andd feeding a small bottle he miggt settle and go through but will he have this habit for ever till i break it. I thought he might naturally drop the bottle grr x

Why is him chatting such a bad habit?? Its good for him to learn how to go back to sleep by himself

I think its lovely that he is so happy in his bed that he will sit and have a play and not instantly cry.

Lazy puppy It is nice but he doesn't seem to settle on his own. He ends up crying :(

I absolutely feel your pain here. I have an 11 month old who has never been a good sleeper but also does this. He wakes up any time during the night and cries and once me or my partner are in the room he chats. Me or my partner has to sit on the floor next to the cot (totally ignoring him, not evening making eye contact) until he falls back to sleep. This can happen quickly or slowly.
I have tried every possible solution to improve his sleep for months and months but nothing has worked. I did contact a sleep consultant a month or so back who was fantastic and she gave good advice and he slept through for a few nights after a week of following her advice, but then his 2 top teeth came and a week later a bad cold/cough which disrupted the whole thing and we're back to square one.
At one point I found myself giving him a feed during the night but I didn't want to start the habit of night feeds.
If there's one thing I've learnt it's to be patient and calm. Maybe try doing the same, sitting in sight but totally ignoring baby unless they're in a position they cannot move out of or distressed.
You're certainly not alone, I often have to remind myself the same. But whether they're happily chatting away or not, it's still hard being awake for long periods of time during the night! Quick get ups and broken sleep is bad enough!
You've got this

Jwbs- Thanks for the back up haha. Its so difficult coz im glad hes happy but hes so loud and im awake and hes shares a room with his sister. How she sleeps through it. He has had bleeding gums today so def think a tooth is on his way so will see how tonight goes. I think its so easy to get caught up on whats habit and whats not and its all second guessing. He might be hungry he might be just awake. He might want a cuddle he might be teething lol its so hard. Thanks again for yr msg xx