Advice re 26 month old bedsharing breastfed toddler.

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My 2 year old sleeps with me every night. Is breastfed to sleep for daytime naps and bed time. Not breastfed during night wakeings which are frequent, just snuggle in and returns to sleep. My husband has moved to the spare room and if he tries to settle our toddler she screams until he hands her back to me. Quite often she will go to bed at 8.30 wake at 9.45 and not settle until I go to bed with her. Her cot is in my bedroom.
I'd like to stop breastfeeding and Bedsharing but in the most gentle way possible. I'm also unlikely to get much help from my husband as he has a long commute and demanding job. I have a tiny commute, demanding job, but only part time.
Does anyone have any advice.

Thank you

I would say try to make a New Bedroom fpr your tot with her also helping out with the bedroom decorations & bed - make it really special for her. I used to sleep with mine in her bed then just move when she was asleep. That might also be an idea - then when / if she wakes up go to her & lie down for a while until she nods off.
The idea of a new bedroom is to mark the change but it doesn't have to be negative even if it does temporarily upset & disrupt her routine- its necessary if its creating a division between you & your DH

Watching with interest if that’s ok as in the same boat with a 23 month old breastfed bed sharer who wakes throughout the night and will only settle with boob!

It's exhausting isn't it Badminton.

We had the health visitor round who looked horrified that I'm still feeding (why do they all seem to be anti extended feeding) and suggested cry it out. But I just can't.

I will press on with getting her room ready and a nice space to be in. Just can't see how to stop the breast feeding and bed sharing.

DH is totally against swapping cot for toddler bed. Though I think it would help.

Bloody exhausting!!!! I am also a bit of a wimp when it comes to cry it out, I just can’t bring myself to leave her to cry.
Re getting her to settle/sleep through in a cot before a bed, presumably in a bed they would just keep getting in and out?!
Anyone got any tips to help us out?!

Badminton. This weekend I've been trying to convince dd that cot is best for day naps and breast feeding is not necessary. So cuddles and story then into cot at 12.30 when she's ready for a nap. She cried for 1.5 hours the first day, all the while I sat with her talking softly or stroking her back. Day2 cried again but under an hour. Day3 less crying, still loads of support as she falls asleep.

Night time I'm making a big thing of cuddles and books/distraction and trying don't offer, don't refuse for beast milk. Last2 nights she has fallen asleep on me in the big bed but without asking for a feed. Once this becomes a pattern I'll try to take the bed sharing at night.

Hope that helps a little. It's not been as bad as expected.