Co-sleepers when did your DC sleep through/move into their own room

[catlady55555]

Not necessarily looking for weaning/ sleep training advice as personally would not like to do controlled crying.
But just wondered for those who cosleep with their DC. When did their DC eventually move into their own room? Also my DD (2) still wakes a couple of times a night to bf. If your DC bf did they eventually sleep through or did you night wean them?
TIA

Sorry to be of absolutely no help at all, I am in the exact same predicament.

No help from me either!! We are co-sleeping and still breastfeeding during the night at 2 years and 3 months. I’m considering gentle night weaning after all 4 back molars are through, but I’ve considered trying hybrids before and ended up not doing so!

*considered trying it before
(Fat fingers, sorry!!)

BF & co-slept here but she stopped BF overnight herself sometime around 18months. (Still woke up, still doesn't consistently sleep through at 2.5, just didn't look for breast when she did wake) Was then just having one feed before bed and she dropped that at 20 months after I was away from her for 2 nights. We had her in her own room at around 12months, can't remember why, just seemed the right time for us all I think.

I did both breastfeeding and cosleeping. My eldest is 3.5 and has just decided to go into their own room. In terms of night weaning, they were 18 months when they stopped night feeds and slept through. I was pregnant at the time though and put limits in place due to nursing aversion! So I would let eldest feed for a set amount of time and then ask them to stop. Once I'd done that for a couple of weeks the sleeping through naturally happened.

Youngest is 1.5 and still cosleeps and breastfeeds. Generally sleeps through between 10-5 and feeds before and after this period of time.

@shetookmylastcarrot what was the reaction when you started setting limits? My DD is 2.5, has some minor health issues that mean that she wakes at night (and alas I doubt there’s an end in sight any time soon). We cosleep in her room most of the time as it’s easier for me. I’m happy to stay cosleeping with her so she is comforted when she wakes, but wouldn’t mind giving up the night feeds. I think DD will be very cross if I don’t let her feed all the way to sleep, and I’m not sure how I’d handle that, I’m not keen on prolonged crying at night time!

I thought it would be worse than it was with my 3.5yo as he has struggled with his temper and was prone to hitting and biting. There were some temper tantrums but over all it was pretty stress free. I used to count down from 10 so he had a little bit of warning and if he protested is just offer him a cuddle. I can't remember where I read it, perhaps Sarah Ockwell Smith, but I was comforted by the fact that leaving a child to cry alone and letting a child cry with the offer of comfort from a caregiver are two very different things. It's perfectly acceptable to put limits in place and allow them to express their feelings, giving them comfort as they do so. I'm all for whatever gets me the most sleep but the feeding was becoming excessive. If I remember correctly I gradually did it, so I'd allow a full feed but then when Is really had enough I used a count down. I still feed him at 3.5 and always use the countdown method win no problems as I can't bare a full feed (nursing aversion!)

My 1.5yo on he other hand has been no trouble whatsoever and will either come off straight away and go to sleep or at worst, cry briefly and ask for a cuddle. Hopefully this is what will happen for you!

My DD didn't sleep through regularly till 7yo. Hubby and I decided never to send her back to her own bed even after the birth of her brother.

Now DS is 3 1/2 but he wakes and comes into us, which is a total nightmare as it's like sleeping next to a box of caffeinated frogs!

We coslept with both of ours but not fully, they used to wake in the night and come in with us. Around age 2 - 2 1/2 with both of them we found the cosleeping had kind of peaked in that they were more restless in our bed and it was working much less well than it had been. I used to take them back and try and settle them back in their own beds, both times they were well established in being out of a cot & in a low toddler bed so I could lie on the floor and be very close/lie half on their bed/slouch on their pillow etc. Gradually that got more successful and now (youngest is 3) it’s standard.

I definitely felt having them in a bed rather than a cot helped, it was a pita in some ways but it meant that it was a much gentler transition with them able to get out and come to us if they wanted to.