I am at breaking point please help

[Stressedmummyof4]

My youngest is 6 and omg she is killing me slowly. She will not sleep unless in a bed with me or her dad. We can't continue like this. I am exhausted.

I also have a dd with sen issues who struggles with sleep, my dp goes to work at 4am every morning and so the bed hopping starts. Not only will she not sleep but she follows you about. I've tried all the usual laying next to her till she falls over, waiting for about two hours and sneaking out the room only to have her at my back half way through the hall. Sitting in the floor next to her bed, again she appears within minutes of you leaving the room. It's not that I'm not letting her fall into a deep sleep I'm sitting on the floor for around an hour and a half each time.

When I'm dealing with my dd she becomes stroppy and wakes all her siblings up through the night everyone is shattered and she is so whingy the next morning it's unbelievable. Please can someone give some advice this can't continue. Everyone is affected by it now

Oh, Stressed, I can hear your pain in your message.
My oldest is a nightmare sleeper, but he is under total instruction that between the hours of 9pm and 5am (its 6.30 here now), he is to stay, quietly, in his bed. He can go to the bathroom, and wake an adult if there is a problem (illness, nosebleed). I dont tell him he needs to sleep, but that he needs to rest.

At 6, I think I'd tell her straight that everyone isnt getting enough rest, and the rules will now be XYZ.
If you wanted a gentler approach, would a bed in your room help it not? Possibly not if people are getting up very early for work.

Hopefully you get so e better advicexwhen the UK wakes up

Hi sunshine, again a mother night of wakening everyone up, she is supposed to share with her older sister(10) so I see no reason that she needs someone there I have tonight again made a bed on the floor next to hers she has cried and cried, I have ended up telling her older sister to go sleep in another room so as she can get enough rest for tomorrow.

One minute she needs a light so I have bought a low level plug in thing that gives soft light, this enabled her to talk strangely so off went the light. Then she needs the bedroom door shut right because the lamp downstairs is giving too much light?? All on the same night. She is scared apparently, needs a hug, has a sore leg/arm/foot. Basically any excuse just not to sleep!

I have actually walked away tonight and went downstairs as I am exhausted and feel like I could end up snapping and screaming at her. I have just found out three days ago I am expecting again, this hasn't went down well with my partner and I just feel huge stress and emotion and her constantly crying is getting on top of me.

I just wish for one nights sleep, just one night that she will not cry and whimper. I must sound so cold. I do cuddle tell her I love her every night kiss her tuck her in but we have the same issue every night.

Whilst I have went down stairs for a breather she has hopped in beside her dad who is snoring his head off as he is up in two and a half hours for work. Knowing full well as soon as he leaves the bed she will be back in to cry in my face again . Sorry for venting sometimes getting it off your chest makes things seem brighter x

Sounds tough ok the whole house.
Is it an option to just accept bed sharing with her for now just to get you all a decent sleep? You can tackle her sleep once older as she won't want to share forever.

Then you and your husband would need to make time for each other with daytime dates and the occasional eve where you accept the kids won't go to bed without you so they just wait up til you're back?

Hi seeking, tbh I've been happy to share a bed with her, I have a dc who is special needs and whilst falls asleep wanders through the night, so after partner goes to work I have been having to move into my bed with the both of them just to allow some sort of sleep, but she is so difficult, she doesn't want her sibling there, she won't sleep at the door side of the bed, the window side can't sleep in the middle because she knows that her sibling is beside her. It's just awful. This has been my reason for trying to get her to be able to sleep in her own bed, but I can see that I am going to end up buying a double bed for her room just so I can sleep in with her. Tbh I think me and partner have more of less gave up on the thought of sharing a bed together now .

Lots of hugs 🌺
Is this a new thing or has she always been like this? Is she doing it for attention? Just trying to think of possible reasons so we can think of solutions

It sounds like you are juggling a lot!
I know some people find it helps to have a single next to a double when sharing. Could you do that and have you in middle but able to get up without disturbing them by having separate covers for.you all?

How are things going stressedmummy?