10 month old and dummy/frequent night wakings

[MeadowHay]

DD has always woken numerous times a night for her dummy, for a few months betweeen like 4 and 7 months this could go through periods of waking every 30 minutes all night long which was grim to say the least. She gradually began to find it herself, she has a Sleepytot bunny. For the last 2 months or so she's got pretty good at sorting it herself FINALLY. But she still frequently wakes up at night with a shrill cry and rubs her eyes and doesn't even attempt to look for it, until one of us pops it back in for her after she cries for a few minutes and then she goes back to sleep.

We had initially planned to try and move her into her own bedroom after the Easter weekend because she had been finding it herself about 75% of the time but then the week leading up to Easter she had a funny turn and woke up crying a lot in the night, needing comforting/rocking back to sleep, sometimes a bottle, and frequent dummy replacements (like every 2 hours or more). This past week she's settled back down again, but we are still replacing it for her about twice a night, but some nights more (and she does it herself multiple other times, she wakes frequently). I can't see the logic in moving her to her own room if we're going to be up and down a lot every night but at the moment I just don't know what to do. I don't want to take it off her as she's still a really 'difficult' baby (cries loads still) and it brings her comfort. But I'm worried the longer we leave moving her into her own room the more difficult it's going to get, and I have visions of a 2 yr old still in our room and still refusing to sort her own dummy out multiple times a night...?! We do always give her the opportunity to sort it herself and she does more often than not, but often will just start crying harder and won't, should we just leave her to cry and eventually she'll sort it? We are always worried to leave her more than 5 mins or so in case she gets super worked up and then won't go back to sleep easily iyswim. Has anyone been through similar at this age? Do they just sort it out themselves eventually?

I have three children 10,8 and 10 months and they were all the same with the dummies. I usually go in 3-4 times a night to give my son his dummy back. I can remember with my eldest I put lots of dummies in her bed so she could easily find them but that wasn’t until she was over a year old. My ten month old cant find his in the night and if I leave him the more he wakes up the harder it is to get him back to sleep. With regards to being in your room I would put her in her own room. My sons in next door bedroom and it’s no different from him being in with us and you might find she sleeps better as she won’t be getting disturbed as much with you moving around in bed.

We want her in our room, mostly because we are hoping she might actually sleep a little better as she won't be disturbed by us especially as she sometimes wakes when we are going to bed at night or when we get up for work in the morning. But also slightly because we'd both be happy to have our bedroom back just for the two of us! But I don't want to make our lives harder by having to go up and down the landing multiple times a night to see to her. Her bedroom is the next bedroom to ours but the bathroom is in between the bedrooms so it's further along the landing rather than directly next door. Obviously we'd have baby monitor on like. You make me feel better about the dummy situation as everyone I know irl and people on MN usually claim their babies are all putting their dummies in completely by themselves from being about 6 or 7 months! Are they all just bullshitting then dya reckon?! Only my sister had a dummy out of me and my siblings and my parents say they can't remember ever having to replace it on a night for her but admit they may just not remember (she's the youngest of three and in her early twenties now). So after 1 did they just sort themselves out with dummy and mostly sleep through (barring illness etc)? And how did you move them into their own room, whenever we stay anywhere else the first night or few she wakes constantly screaming loads because of the unfamiliarity?

We want her in her OWN room, I meant.

Try her in her own room. If might be you waking her up all night.

I used to put loads of dummies in my kids cots to help them find them at night. I even remember buying glow in the dark ones. This age was quite difficult with my two boys, with teething and they both were spring babies so hitting the winter and lots of colds etc. This was definitely the peak for having to go to them in the night.