12 week old won't sleep upstairs

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Hi everyone, this is my first time here, and I am a first time mum looking for some help.
Myself and my husband have got ourselves into a bit of a pickle with DD sleeping. DD was born at 34 weeks and spent the first 4 weeks in special care, she has been home nearly 8 weeks now, however, due to our general overprotectivness,illness for a time on my part, and the fact that DH is a night owl, we've got into the habit of me going up to bed at say midnight till around 6am, and then DH going up to bed at 6am till the afternoon, luckily DH not only quite likes being up at night but works from home and can get this done at night on between baby sleeping. We have tried on several occasions to get DD into a better sleeping habit at night, and where as I realise she's is still very little, and also would be even younger if she had not been born 6 weeks early, she just will not settle in her crib upstairs! She tends to cluster feed in the early to mid evening now, and when she is downstairs with DH has 2-3 feeds between midnight and 6, and in between times is pretty soundly asleep in her Moses basket, however, when we try the same routine upstairs in her crib she is constantly squirming/grunting/waking. We tried again last night, took her to bed with us about 11.30pm she was sound asleep, woke just after 12 to feed, fell back to sleep, put her in her crib and she stirred and chattered and almost forces herself awake between then and 2am when we gave up and DH brought her downstairs to sleep. We are trying to figure out what the problem is, due to things that have happened in the past we are very reluctant to actually "put her to bed" on her own upstairs yet, her crib is right next to my side of the bed so she knows she's not alone as she can see me. DH has suggested it's too quiet upstairs as we don't have a tv or anything in the bedroom, and while downstairs the tv will be on, or myself or my husband will be making noise doing whatever we are doing. I really need to get DD into some kind of sleep pattern, I'm just not sure how's best to go about getting her to stay settled in her crib to enable me and DH to get into some sort of routine where we are both managing some sleep at night! Any suggestions would be appreciated.
Thanks

If she's happy sleeping in the Moses basket, could you try moving that upstairs with you? Don't worry too much if she's not in a routine yet, lots of babies are still fairly nocturnal at this point - the most important thing is to teach her night and day, so lots of light, normal noise levels etc through the day, then quieter and dark at night.
You could try white noise to settle her upstairs if you think she doesn't like it too quiet?
If you google the 4th trimester that might reassure you that this is totally normal and nothing to worry about, she's still so tiny and routines will develop over time.

Hi Tilly, thanks for the response. We have tried the Moses basket upstairs, but we have the same result as the crib even though she sleeps fine in it downstairs. DH thought she might find the crib mattress less comfortable, so we started putting her changing mat in the crib as she will also sleep on this sometimes in the day and it's really wedged in so no danger, but we have the same result. We did try white noise, what seems like a very long time ago, though was probably only a couple of weeks, it didn't seem to have any effect on her at the time but I may try that again. She is still tiny, and am not expecting a great routine right now, but feel like if we don't start trying to get some better habits we're going to struggle long term. Would also be nice for me and DH to sleep in the same bed at the same time again as we haven't in nearly 3 months now