I'm so exhausted. I had to stop myself from running away

[MissMoodyMoo]

When do mum's get to sleep or even have a break 😭😭 baby is 8 weeks old and I'm exhausted!! It just never seems I get a break! Baby was at my mum's for the first time on Sunday night and even then I had to get up during the night to let the dog out for a pee and do all the house work 😭😭 now baby was up every half hour to an hour last night and before then cried from 5pm until 8pm straight 😐😐 and my partner's only day off this week was yesterday and he decided to use his time to drive 5 hours down to Wolverhampton to watch the bloody football then back again and never got in until 03.45am knowing full well he had work today at 1pm! So obviously he's tired and crabbit and can't watch the baby as he needs to sleep for work!! I could bloody murder him!! He was out all day saturday with his mates having a drink and watching the football and stayed at his friends house as i didnt want him to come home drunk!! Im really starting to resent him!!! At 6am I had to stop myself getting in the car and driving away leaving them both and not coming back 😭 but I love my baby and don't like leaving her 😕 I've been diagnosed with PTSD after scary pregnancy and delivery so I already feel like I'm constantly living on the edge 😓 i just need sleep!. Baby is still getting up every 3 hours for a feed and if someone tells me that their baby slept through from 6 weeks again I don't know whether I'll scream or punch them in the face 😭😭

It does get easier! Hang in there - you're doing a great job caring for your Bub. I thought those early days with my DD would never end! The night feeds that seemed to go on all night!! I remember sitting in the nursery in the dark listening to the dawn chorus as the sun rose... thinking I've had an hours sleep and it's now morning!!!

But it all changes after you get through the first couple of months..you'll get a routine in order and you'll look back on that time and think - I got through it!!!!
Get your partner involved with bathtime...my hubby loves to do that....and out for walks in the pram or Daddy cuddles....he'll soon be forget about football!

Stay strong.
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Your partner needs to step up and help with the housework, childcare etc. The fact that he’s working shouldn’t mean he gets a free pass the rest of the time.

Your partner isn’t doing enough. You need to put your foot down there for starters!

Could your mum take baby again and this time you just sleep? Let your partner get up with dog/do housework.

Oh and take what your friends say with a pinch of salt. None of my mum friends babies (or mine) sleep through yet.

Yes the early days are extremely hard! It does change but you need to go into survive mode now! Do whatever it takes! Recruit everyone! Under no circumstances feel like you are failing and shouldn’t ask for help. Our partners can sometimes do a runnner when things get tough, sounds like your absent daddy isn’t coping too well with the new arrival. It happens! It happened to me! You need to start talking to everyone including him and get some sleep. In the beginning emotionally we are super attached to our babies. Nature is amazingly powerful that’s why we Mum’s don’t run away! It’s another reason we sometimes find it hard to leave our babies even when its extremely important we get sleep and care for ourselves! Don’t fall into that trap! So it’s time to rally the troops, talk to everyone including the health visitor, it was such a person who saved my life when sleep problems became impossible. We are all different and so are out beautiful babies so your solution will be individual. ‘Stay strong’ is good advice but remember you are only human and need support! Go get it girl!