10 month separation anxiety and no longer self soothes

[Maya2018]

Hi All,

Just looking for any advice on the matter,
My 10 month girl was previously sleep trained sleeping from 7.30-6am every night and having 3 hour total naps during the day.

She recently got unwell and we got into the habit of sleeping with her again and she’s now better however feel she’s also going through separation anxiety, on top of that she’s just learnt to sit up and has just started to crawl.

Night times have become a real struggle. She needs me to be present in the room for her to fall asleep initially and then she’s back wide awake at 1-2pm for 2 hours, I’ve been trying to re train her to sleep but this time is so much harder, she cries the full 10 minutes and then when I go and soothe her she would then cry again when I leave the room.

Does anyone have any tips!?! We need her to sleep by herself again, we know she can do it but I just don’t know how

No advice, but following as we have exact same issue suddenly. DS is 9 months.

I've just been through this with my second who is already walking and talking and won't lie down It did pass after a few weeks. She's now back to sleeping fairly consistently but still struggles to settle. I've been having some success with the pick up put down method - I rock her until she's drowsy, then put her down. When she (inevitably) cries, I pick her up and repeat. It can take 2,3,4 goes but usually works. She's in the middle of a leap though and I know from my first daughter that when it ends she'll probably go back to her usual self. So I'm not stressing too much and just trying not to get stuck in the trap of rocking her completely to sleep in the meantime.

It’s reassuring to know I’m not the only one, with the pick up and put down method did you let her cry it out for a set number of minutes before you went in each time?

Thankyou I actually feel more relaxed about the situation as you are right it’s definitely a leap she’s going through.

Ahh I know exactly how you feel! Hope it gets better soon for you aswell !